In honor of my newest book release NO MATTER WHAT, a paranormal thriller based on the concept of reincarnation, I thought I’d post some thoughts on this controversial topic.
People either believe in it pretty strongly or they don’t buy it at all. Some might be on the fence about it but even they are more skeptical than not. There was a time, though, when the majority of the human population believed in reincarnation. Now, I could quote books that cover this subject and try to state my case in why I believe in it with data from others, but why? I have found that our beliefs are strengthened through personal experience more than anything else. So, I want to share MY experiences and thoughts on it and I’d love for others to share theirs as well. I would. The subject is fascinating!
So anyway. I first heard of reincarnation from various paranormal and occult books I picked up in high school (we had a pretty decent school library, I have to say!). I was doing some research on the paranormal because of that haunted house I was living in at the time (I’ve published several blog posts on my ghostly encounters if you’re interested!). I was determined to learn what I could about the spirit world and reincarnation was often mentioned. Many ancient cultures believed in it and most Eastern religions still do today. In fact, some cultures didn’t just BELIEVE it, they accepted it as a known FACT! I mean…ever watch those fascinating History or Discovery Channel shows on the Egyptians? They took the whole thing quite, quite seriously.
I have to say, though, that is was the book Audrey Rose that really fired up my interest! I don’t know why but I really identified with that story!! Sure it was a work of fiction but after reading other books about non-fictional accounts of Past Life memories, it seemed pretty darned plausible to me. I mean, here’s our hope that we aren’t all doomed for hell! I try to live by a decent moral code but I am no Mother Theresa. So, am I destined for hell? I enjoy a drink on occasion (those new Whipped Pinnacle Vodkas are going to be my downfall!), I have a temper and (dare I admit it?) let loose on a few choice words every now and then that would be better left UNSAID! I can be pretty critical about anything and everything (and then I get on my own case about it!). It is no fun airing my faults but the fact is, most of us have some, and many of those vices or faults we fall victim to are considered SINS! (sigh)
As for one of the really bad sins, well…I haven’t killed anyone DIRECTLY but I was in the military and I can’t say for sure that any of the weapons I prepped for the pilots to use didn’t end up taking a life or two. Does that make me guilty by association? Are the military exempt? Some say yes, others say no…who is right? Does it matter? Not if reincarnation comes into play!
My favorite authors on this subject are Edgar Cayce the Sleeping Prophet (he’s truly amazing!!) and Dr. Brian Weiss who is on a book tour right now for Miracles Happen: The Transformational Healing Power of Past-Life Memories.
Another reason I came to accept this belief is my own gut-feeling on the subject. When I read about it, there was this sense of acceptance deep within. Now, your gut feeling might tell you otherwise. And if that’s the case, whose gut is right? Now THERE’S a question! My belief is this: regardless what we believe, if it’s true, then it’s true and if it’s not, then it doesn’t matter much because we won’t be back to ponder the question again! (smile) Will believing in it send us to hell if it isn’t true? Good Lord, I think our LOVING God is more merciful than that. I’m sure he’ll straighten us out when we get over “there” (on the “other side”).
Other than all the stories I’ve read on it, I’ve had a few amazing dreams that have helped me along with this belief. I was still in high school when I had this dream that I was a male soldier (I guess our genders don’t much matter in the whole reincarnation process) and in the middle of a war battle. I didn’t recognize the uniform I was wearing but later I was able to match it to those similar to those worn during the World War I/II era. So anyway…I was right in the middle of battle, shooting at the enemy when suddenly we were getting overrun! We were told to retreat but I stumbled and fell. Knowing I could not get away, I tried to play dead. The enemy wasn’t having it. They surrounded me, lifted their guns and shot me several times. Now really, I’m thinking THOSE soldiers committed the worst deed but I’ll leave them to their Karma and worry about my own. I remember feeling very HOT and then I was suddenly floating over my body and feeling no sense of attachment to the bloody mess below me! I woke up right after that and my feet were literally burning! I had to jump out of bed and walk around on the cold floor to cool them off. That dream seemed so real and unlike anything I had ever experienced before. Interestingly enough, when I joined the Air Force right after high school and had to shoot a gun for the first time ever, I missed qualifying as an Expert Shot by a couple points! Not to worry…I made up for it the following year!! (smile)
The general thought on reincarnation is that our current lives are influenced in one way or another by previous life experiences. Scared of heights though there’s no explanation for it? Maybe you fell to your death in a previous life! Afraid of water? Maybe you drowned in another life! I really address this very thing in my newest book No Matter What.
Another dream I had was even more amazing! I dreamed an entire LIFETIME in one night! I went through it all…birth, childhood, teenage years, young adult, marriage, children, grandchildren. In that dream I died of old age surrounded by my large loving family! As soon as I died in the dream, I woke up and I couldn’t shake those memories for quite some time. It was so bizarre! So darned REAL!
But, what really clinched the whole reincarnation belief for me was my son. He wasn’t yet two years old when he came to me one day while I was preparing dinner in the kitchen. He tugged on my pants to get my attention and I looked down at him. He had a very puzzled look on his cute little face. “What, Wes?” I ask and he cocks his head to look up at me and very seriously he asks, “Where is my wife?” Now, I didn’t even know Wes knew what a wife was! (and just so you know…he had a great vocabulary for his age!). I say to him, “What wife?” and he shakes his head in frustration because he really, truly wants to know. “My wife. You know, when I was a man and I had a wife? Where is she? I miss her!” and I tell him I don’t know where she is. He turns away all dejected and heads for the couch where he sits down to cry. I go to him and try to offer comfort. He continues to tell me about how he used to be a man and now he’s a kid but when he was a man he had a wife and he really liked her. Now, Wes often made similar comments about being “a man”. He’d say stuff like, “When I was a man, I drove a truck.” or “When I was a man, I did this” or “did that” or whatever. Because I believed in reincarnation, I did not ridicule or dismiss Wes’s comments and questions. I also was careful not to “feed” them.
I remember one afternoon while driving down a country road, Wes suddenly spoke up all excited. “Mommy! I remember this place! This is where we had the accident.” Now really, should a two-year old kid be talking like that? “What accident?” I ask. “When I was driving the car and the truck hitted us. You know, when I was a man.” and then “Where is my wife? I miss her.” He was always so sad when mentioning his wife. I wish I’d tried to look it up about there being a car accident in the area Wes identified but I didn’t.
I think the incident that bothered me the most with my son was the night I was tucking him into bed and noticed how sad he was. I asked him what was wrong. His big brown eyes looked into mine and he said, “I don’t want to die again. I don’t like that.” Then he tells me that he liked being a man and wanted to know why he had to be little again. For a two-year old, Wes was pretty obsessed with death. He hated to watch anything on TV that involved it. He would get so upset and cry and then we’d have to talk about how the stuff on TV wasn’t real and no one really died. In fact, my son talked about being a man so much and had such an obsession about death that my friends were often “weirded out” by him.
The general consensus among believers is that very young children often do remember snippets of their past lives. But as they age, the memories fade. The last time Wes talked about his past lives was when he was about four. He claimed he was a pilot in the Korean War and died getting shot down! He knew far more than a little kid should know about aerial dog fights and honestly, where would he even hear of the Korean war? I NEVER watched war stories and I certainly didn’t let Wes watch them. I think that pretty much set it in my mind.
One of the things on my Bucket List is go undergo a Past Life regression. I’d love to find out who I’ve been before. It might explain a lot about myself. In any case, it would satisfy my curiosity!
The subject has truly fascinated me since I first learned of it and I love stories that involve the concept. I first came up with the story idea for No Matter What when I was in high school. I started it but never finished it (as was the case with many book ideas). Twenty years later I found the notebook containing the partially written story on my bed and took it as a sign from the Universe to finish it! So I did. What I loved about writing that story was the fact I could explore a lot of my beliefs through the characters. Hauntings interest me…there’s a ghost. Numerology interests me…one of the main characters dabbles in it! As for the reincarnation theory…well, there are several reincarnated souls all working on current life issues that stem from their past life actions!
My hope is that when people read that story, they find some hope that nothing is hopeless! Because it isn’t. No matter what, we are all going to heaven. Eventually. After a few lives or so!! (smile)
Okay, that’s it for now. What are your thoughts? Have you had any experiences with this? I’d love to hear your stories, beliefs, arguments…whatever. Until next time! Many blessings and Peace Out!
Have a GREAT HALLOWEEN!! May it be truly SPOOKTACULAR.
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This post reminded me of my brother when he was younger. He used to say “when I was bigger…” and at the time my family didn’t think about reincarnation so it didn’t make sense. That was about 20 years ago and we’ve all since made major spiritual shifts
Great post!
Thanks! Glad you enjoyed the post. I’m really glad I was aware of reincarnation and had accepted it before my son was born, otherwise, I would have just passed his comments off as weird and imaginative! Sure makes you think, though, doesn’t it? Thanks for stopping by and sharing that about your brother!
Deborah ~ There is nothing wrong with drinking a little “Whipped” when you end writing for the week. Try it in a milkshake, it is excellent!
Regarding your son firming up your belief in reincarnation. My daughter did the same for me. In 2004, I had just finished reading Children’s Past Lives by Carol Bowman. Carol said all you need to do is ask more questions and children can answer them (regarding a past life mention). Since then, my daughter has spoken about several past lives. Some have been very healing for her. One released her fear of flying.
Carol’s book was my formal introduction to reincarnation. I have read all of Brian Weiss’ books, took his training class and cannot wait to read his new book. Hopefully his class this weekend in Philadelphia is still scheduled – I have tickets to it.
Now, I am writing a book about my past life experiences and how they healed me on multiple levels. It has been healing through the regressions and the writing.
I am glad I found your blog, I look forward to reading your book!
I think Whipped Vodka tastes good in just about anything! lol. I’m wishing now that I wrote down all that transpired with my son (he’s 28 now!) but I’ve talked about what happened with him so much, it has kept most of my memories pretty clear! People really should pay more attention to what a child is saying…they might learn a lot! (smile) I hope you blog about your experience with Weiss in Philly! Lucky you! Thanks for sharing your story about your daughter!! Blessings.
From the time I was very young I had dreams of dying in a submarine. The first time my family went to Disneyland (we lived in Southern California) was when I was about 3 or 4 and I was already having the submarine dreams. I flat refused to get on the submarine ride, crying, and insisting I didn’t want to go underwater in that thing. My parents had to show me that the submarine never actually submerged, it stayed on the surface the whole time, before I would get on. Anytime I saw submarines in movies I would feel short of breath, and just seeing one docked while doing a public tour of Navy ships brought on a near panic attack. Not something that I had ever experienced before. When I was in my early 20′s I took a group past life regression class and saw my life as a U-boat sailor in WWII. There was an explosion, the boat lost power and sank. Electrical systems failed and it got dark and cold before the pressure crushed in the hull. My last thoughts were of my wife and kid and when the hypnotist led the group out of the regression I was still in that grieving moment. So when I sat up, I was hysterical, crying, sobbing and gasping because I couldn’t breathe. Not exactly something I’m prone to do. My friend, who was in the group looked at me like I’d grown a second head because she’d never seen me like that before. However, it stopped the dreams, and I lost my ‘irrational’ fear of submarines. Something about knowing what happened cleared away the fear and panic. I have always believed in reincarnation. Great stories about Wes, how amazing that he retained those memories. Does he still talk about ‘when he was a man’ or ask about his wife?
Great story, Serena! A perfect example of how a past life event can affect your current life in some way! It does seem to be the case that once you remember a past life experience, it no longer seems to bother you! An interesting phenomenon. Thanks so much for sharing that story. As for Wes, he stopped talking about his life “as a man” when he was about 5. I guess the memories just faded with time. He doesn’t recall any of that now. As we grow into our current lives, we get too involved with it to remember “before”. Probably a good thing for the most part. How cool tht you got to take part in a past life regression! I hope to do that some day. Thanks again for sharing!
Just so you are aware of the skeptics arguments, here are a couple of links:
http://skepdic.com/cayce.html
http://www.skepdic.com/pastlife.html
I’m very much aware of the skeptic arguments! Get into it all the time (in a friendly way of course!!) but out of curiosity…to see if it’s anything new, I’ll give it a look see. But really, I’ve heard a LOT of arguments against, mostly with religious quotes but in the end we believe what we believe based on our own experiences and perceptions. Not that we should be closed to other viewpoints, though! Thanks!!
I’m not sure about reincarnation but the subject does fascinate me. What about heaven though? If you keep reincarnating do you ever get to heaven? I love talking about these big questions but never find answers.
Hi, Emma! It’s so funny you ask that question…it’s the reason for the title of my new book NO MATTER WHAT (which is totally based on the concept of reincarnation)! Little Lynn asks the same thing and her mother’s reply, “Eventually we ALL get to Heaven…NO MATTER WHAT!” Reincarnation (as I understand it) makes it possible for everyone to get to there…eventually!! Thanks for stopping by! Love hearing from you!!
Good luck with the release. I always enjoy reading your posts.
Before the last 4 or 5 years (my spiritual “shift”), I never gave this subject much thought at all. I remember a comment my grandma made to me when i was little after my dog died. It was the first time I heard of it. But… I thought it was crazy. She was a Jehova’s Witness, and so I just thought it was a JW thing.
Now I believe very strongly in it and feel like I’ve known this as fact for a lifetime.
You made me think of a reincarnation story when you mentioned your dog dying! I’d forgotten. I had a little dog Tippy that I loved very, very much. He was like my little buddy, my constant companion and I felt safe when he was with me because he always let me know when ghosts were around. Well, Tippy loved to sing and every single time we sang “How much is that doggy in the window” he’d start howling away! Usually all we had to get out was “How much…” and he’d pitch in!! The day he was hit by a car, he wasn’t killed right away but he was injured badly. I lay beside him and prayed my heart out for God to heal him. I started singing that song and though he was hurting bad, he tried to sing with me. It broke my heart and still does (crying as I write this! dang it). Tippy died that night and it was one of the blackest moments of my life. Well, the SAME night Tippy died, his mother gave birth to three more babies (same father as well) and one of them had the exact same markings as Tippy. Well of course we HAD to have that puppy. We named him Buttons. A few days after getting Buttons…he was about 9 weeks old…I was holding him in my arms and I started singing “How much is that doggy in the window” and do you know what Buttons did? Yes! He immediately started yapping away (he was just a tiny puppy…part Chihuahua/toy poodle mix) so he couldn’t yet howl but he sure tried! I truly believe Buttons was Tippy’s soul come back to be with us. From then on Buttons howled that song every time we sang it just like Tippy did. Coincidence? I think not. Don’t believe in them. Always nice to chat with you, Patrick!!
Amazing story, Deborah!
Excellent post! I have been fascinated with reincarnation and the afterlife for years, and it plays a big part in my fiction writing as well. If you haven’t read Out On A Limb by Shirley MacLaine, I highly reccommend it-seeing her go from skeptic to believer is amazing! Another one that you would love is Past Lives, Future Healing by Sylvia Browne. It’s all about true accounts of peoples illnesses, pains and fears stemming from past life events. When I first started reading these kind of books, they only took up one small section in the book store–now there are aisles of new age books! I love that so many people are opening their minds to this again!
Agreed! There are some awesome books out there! Thanks so much for the suggestions!! I really should put a book page together for my blog concerning this and other subjects of this nature! Thanks for stopping by!!
Nice to meet you, Deborah, I came across this post via Twitter. I find the idea of past lives intriguing, and though I don’t believe it personally, I read fiction to suspend my belief, to spend time in other centuries, to fight werewolves, or to relive a past life.
I’ve also blogged about ‘Audrey Rose’, in honour of my good friend and critique partner Sharon Clare’s fabulous release, a paranormal fantasy involving past lives.
Add ‘Love of Her Lives’ to your reincarnation book shelf, curl up, enjoy!
Thanks so much, Sherry! I shall definitely take a look at that book! Appreciate the recommendation. And yes! Reincarnation makes for GREAT fictional storytelling!! Thanks for stopping by my blog!
I don’t know if reincarnation is or isn’t true, but it is a fascinating concept. And you handled the subject beautifully in your novel.
Thanks, Caleb!! Whether you believe in it or not, it leaves the imagination wide-open for great fictional stories! (smile) I appreciate all your great support!!
That’s amazing about your son! I always sort of believed in reincarnation, but after I read Many Lives, Many Masters, I was pretty well convinced. Great article, thanks.
Thanks, Kristalynn! Many Lives, Many Masters is an awesome book! I really should make a book list of those I’ve read that are excellent reads on this subject! It is amazing about my son…I was fascinated then and it fascinates me now thinking back on it!! Thanks for stopping by and commenting!!