Well it’s been awhile since my last post…again! I never intend to let things go so long but then time flies by and suddenly I realize that I need to write another post or people might think I’ve joined the land of the spirits! (smile) The holiday season always keeps me busy thanks to my very large family so it’s what I offer for a poor excuse! Aside from that, I came down with shingles of all things! I don’t even like the word “shingles”! I mean, it sounds like a roofing problem. In any case, it’s very painful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone … well, except for maybe those doing evil in the world…let them deal with this crap. But it doesn’t quite work that way does it? (sigh)
So anyway, I have also been working on my latest book, Haunting Ground, which is number 6 in the Tess Schafer-Medium series. It took me longer to write than I thought it would but my gosh, there was a LOT to deal with. It’s not surprising that I would come up with this story during the Christmas season (though the story takes place in April and has nothing to do with Christmas!). I’ve long known that it’s during this time of year more so than any other when many people get really depressed. While some are running around buying gifts and spending time with friends and family, others are missing those who have passed on into spirit. They are sad and alone. There’s no worse time to be missing someone than during the holidays. Although, in truth, there’s NEVER a good time to be missing anyone! But your “aloneness” seems more pronounced when everyone else is running around singing Christmas carols, wearing weird hats on their heads and watching sappy Christmas romances on the Hallmark channel!
I’ve received a lot of comments on this blog and most of them share a similar desire or concern…they are being frightened by ghosts or they want to contact someone they’ve lost. I will admit that my books are quite influenced by the many comments I get because they put me in a certain frame of mind while writing. When I decided to do Haunting Ground, my influence was the things my character Tess Schafer initially ran away from. She lost a husband and dog in book 1 Be Still, My Love and her grief over that loss cast her into depression. It even stalled her medium ability for awhile. I believe if our spirit is bogged down with grief and depression, those negative emotions are bound to inhibit spiritual abilities! So Tess gets away from her home in New York, goes to the coast of Maine…to a haunted resort of all places!…and finally begins to heal. Sometimes that’s what you need to do…get away from the place that keeps you sad and upset. Tess faced the memories of her husband and dog every day in her home. She couldn’t get a break from it and so the negative feelings continued. Getting away from that was the best thing she could have done and I believe that as well for real situations. If you are grieving over the loss of a loved one and yet are staying in the very place that is constantly reminding you of what you lost…how are you going to get yourself out of such a depression? How are you going to get over it, or get passed it? (not that you ever do completely) You CAN heal enough to move on with your life, but it will be HARD. Some people, of course, find comfort in being in the place where their lost loved one used to live. But the fact is, they are concentrating on the LOSS and thus, that keeps the grief fresh. Time DOES heal, but it takes time!
The Tess Schafer-Medium series has been quite a spiritual, paranormal journey for me. I try to incorporate into my stories the things that might help people deal with real paranormal issues. In Haunting Ground my character goes back to her old home town and finally meets up with the family of the man who killed her husband. It’s a fictional story, but I try to make it a believable one. Tess must confront her own feelings on the issue as well as those of the family still grieving. I think what motivated this story was the idea that no matter what we may believe about a situation…there’s always a story for the OTHER side as well. Tess was angry with Stuart Duncan for driving while under the influence of alcohol and subsequently killing her husband and dog. To her, there is NO EXCUSE for his part in that tragedy. BUT, sometimes, getting the REST of the story can help with the healing process. Why? Because knowing the whole picture helps deal with the small part of it that affects you! Tess has a lot to discover about that accident that killed her husband but in addition, she really does come to care for the family he left behind.
As Tess believes (and so do I), whenever something occurs that we label a “coincidence”, what we are really encountering is a situation that is part of an intricately woven divine plan. The world operates in perfect synchronicity and coincidences are proof of it! Whenever you start encountering a situation that makes you think “Wow, what a coincidence” then you can KNOW that you are on the right path! Whatever is to come, it will end up being for the BEST because God will not conduct the orchestration of life in any other way.
Losing a loved one is one of the worst of things we must deal with in life. The hole left behind cannot be filled. We can’t fill it with drugs or alcohol or wild behavior. We can’t fill it with someone else. In the end, those things will only make it worse. All we can do is learn to live with the hole and turn our focus onto things that don’t make us feel so sad. Of course we’ll never forget and neither should we, but we can at least accept what is gone and focus on what we still have. Besides, those who pass into spirit ARE NOT GONE! Living in a physical world, we want the physical body and only that can satisfy us…BUT, we can’t have that forever now can we? Not here anyway. In the afterlife certainly!
The situations Tess encounters in Haunting Ground are situations that happen a lot actually. People cross over into spirit and from there they must deal with how their loved ones are handling things back “here”. The worst part part for them to deal with is getting a message to us. Most of us ignore their subtle messages, writing them off as “weird” but unexplainable. Or we don’t believe what we suspect. People write in to me all the time saying they lost someone to spirit and now they are experiencing things that make them think that their loved one is trying to contact them. Those people are usually asking for verification on whether the spirit they sense is, in fact, the loved one they THINK it is! I say YES! If something unusual occurs and you think it’s a spirit and then you also believe the spirit is someone you know…it most likely is! That’s why they came to mind right away. Their soul connects with our soul and our soul then sends a thought to us that makes us think “I wonder if it’s gramma” (or whoever). Of course, then our ego kicks in and convinces us that it’s just wishful thinking or the imagination playing around with us. So what if it is those things? Wishful thinking is a DESIRE for something and when it includes another person, they get it…they KNOW you are thinking about them and they come. Always. Every time. No exception. As far as the imagination is concerned…how do you think we gain access into the spirit world? Our imagination is our way IN to spirit. Our wishful thinking about a loved one in spirit is our “call” to them.
I often find myself answering the many questions I get on this blog in pretty much the same way but there’s no other way to answer the questions that all share a common core. I don’t want this blog to be a long one because who has time to read long blogs? Not me. Though I WISH that I did! So anyway, I want to close it with this: If you are missing someone in spirit and something happens that makes you think of them right away…it’s them. They are with you. Take the time to enjoy their presence! It’s pretty amazing. I promise you! If you want to make contact with someone in spirit, THINK about them. FOCUS on them. IMAGINE you are talking to them! The thoughts popping into your head is not random stuff from the imagination…it’s your loved one USING YOUR IMAGINATION to talk to you!
Before I close out, I do want to say that in celebration of Haunting Ground‘s release on the 25th of January 2015 (you can pre-order it on Amazon by clicking on the book title), I am putting Be Still, My Love up for FREE for two days…the 25th and 26th of January. If you are curious about my books, here’s a way to check one out without it costing you anything! I do want to clarify though that the issues Tess struggles with throughout that book…they aren’t much of an issue in the ones following! And yes, Tess’s beliefs about God are interspersed throughout her stories. If I have to call her anything as far as religious thinking goes, I’d have to say she is most closely aligned with the Spiritualist faith (just so you know!)
To further celebrate, I am reducing the prices of book 2 Hidden Voices and book 3 Vanquishing Ghosts for two days. They will both drop to 99 cents on the 25th of January, then slowly creep back up to their full list price of 2.99 by 8 pm on the 26th of January. This way, if anyone is interested in checking out the series, seeing how the stories progress, they can do so with minimal investment!
So that’s it for this post. I need to get back to answering some of the many comments waiting for replies! I’m thinking that future posts will focus on some of the more common questions I get on this blog and addressing them. Since so many people often share the same concern, why not address those concerns all in one place? So, if you have something you want me to blog about, please leave a comment and let me know!
I send blessings out to all of you! Until next time, Peace Out!