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beeIt’s been a while since my last post and that’s because things have been busy, busy in my life! When I was younger I thought we young folks had more problems to deal with than the older generation. Now I realize the opposite is true! The drama never ceases does it? I know we came into physical life to experience all manner of things, good and bad, but it sure seems to me that it’s the bad stuff we must contend with more often.

As to our being here to experience all manner of things…well I’m talking about our spiritual self, or as some call it … our “higher self”. Since our spiritual self does not live under the many restrictions we endure in the physical world, I can only surmise that we are here on a quest to learn how to overcome adversity … negativity in all its forms. Now why we need to learn that, I’m not sure. Perhaps it’s because even when we are in spirit we limit ourselves. So to help us break free of those limitations…we come into physical life. I mean really, if we can figure out how to overcome all the crap that happens to us here and do it without the benefit of our spiritual knowledge (thanks to our ego’s making us forget about where we come from and who we really are) well, we can overcome anything! Right?

I’ve been dealing with negative stuff my whole life … in one way or another. If I’m not mistaken, I’m going to say that most of us have. Life is hard. Aside from acts of nature, which certainly do contribute to our pains and sorrows, the majority of the unpleasantness in our lives comes from humans. The fact is, and I don’t see how it can be argued, we each have the ability to make the lives of others (and ourselves!) either pleasant or unpleasant. Given that…why do people choose the latter? Is there truly any joy in making other people sad, upset and angry? It seems to me that we are moving into a direction where people are all about pleasing themselves without giving any consideration as to how that might affect anyone else. I don’t get it. But then, that’s why I’m here isn’t it? To “get it”…to figure it out…and break FREE!

Although I would say the last twenty-five years of my life have been pretty good for the most part, they have also been some of the most challenging. I’ve had to deal with and overcome one unpleasant situation after another…and have done so! I always remind myself of that when things go sour. “Deb,” I say, “You’ve been dealt crap before and you got through it just fine, you’ll get through this as well!” Yeah, I’m my own cheerleader! In fact, we ALL should be our own best champion! Fact is, you must like you and be rooting for you before you can do the same for anyone else!

When I started the Tess Schafer-Medium paranormal mystery series, I wanted to write stories that explored the realms of spirituality and the supernatural. I wanted a character who was strongly connected to the spiritual world. As story after story unfolded, I learned along with Tess about the possible encounters with the paranormal and what to do about them. As a result, I grew in understanding of things that were there inside me but never really expressed. My character deals with things that are on a much larger scale than anything I have had to deal with and through HER experiences, I am learning how to deal with mine.

I am as fallible as every other human on this planet. Although I wish otherwise, I’m quite guilty of the fact that I get upset, angry, hurt and pissy. I can be riled to the point of wanting to strike back with the same venom that’s coming at me. fireThankfully, I don’t stay locked into those nasty emotional states for very long. I’ve learned to pull myself rather quickly out of the quagmire those situations create. We are a reactionary lot, we humans. Many of us will react in kind to whatever is happening to us. When reacting to positive situations, well, everything is just hunky dory isn’t it? But when reacting to the negative stuff…oh boy, things can go from bad to worse in mere seconds! Luckily, although I often have a negative initial response to bad situations, I soon calm down enough to listen to that “small voice in the back of my head” (which is our soul speaking to us by the way!). Another “voice of reason” is my conscience (another means for our soul to speak to us!). After I react to a negative situation in a similar manner and things escalate…because that’s what happens when you fight fire with fire…you get a BIGGER fire, I withdraw from the siege and get myself back under control. Once I’ve accomplished that, I activate that light of mine and move into a more positive vibration. Although I wish I did this BEFORE things got worse, it’s hard sometimes to reign in charged negative emotions! When someone attacks us, that “flight or fight” instinct really kicks in! Now sometimes if you fire back bigger and better than what is lobbied at you, the other party will back off, but the fact is this: the situation is not resolved. It’s merely gone into “stew” mode. It’s brewing and getting worse. Eventually it will break out into yet another fire. Who wants to go through life dealing with all those dang, unpleasant, annoying and hurtful fires? Not me!

heartloveSeriously, the ONLY thing that conquers negative energy is love. That’s it. Nothing else. Now I know you can’t go around hugging your enemies but you can do this…you can use your spiritual power to calm the negativity between you! In my paranormal series, my main character Tess is constantly telling the other characters that they can use their spiritual energy by imagining a light within them. It is one of the most effective forms of protection you can ever use!

How you might ask? Well, here’s another thing I am learning to understand through my stories…our imagination is our way IN to the spiritual world! It honestly, truly is! INTENTION is how we direct our spiritual power! FOCUS is how we connect with it. Now, I’ve put it in action time and time again, I know it works. And yet I still will often react negatively to negative emotions and actions directed either at me or to someone I care about. Luckily, once I realize what I’m doing, I back off, regroup, and put some light on the situation. No matter how combative I can become, I really do just want to live in PEACE! I want to be in HARMONY with others and with my own self! I want to be happy and I want everyone around me to be happy too! I’m sure many of you feel the same way! But we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t fall short of those ideals every now and then. And if we do, there’s no darn reason why we can’t withdraw from the negativity and bring ourselves back into a peaceful state. Until the next time. It’s an endless cycle. ENDLESS! (sigh)

So, here’s how to deal with negative energy. Here’s my “secret”. First, though, you must understand that we are all spiritual beings having an experience in the physical world. Our body is the vessel in which we go through the earthly experience. We are born into physical existence with an ego. Our ego helps keep us here (for otherwise, we’d want to go right back “home”!). Our ego makes us want to live as long as possible, to fight death, to fear it even. Our ego is what makes us react in kind to negative energy…it’s programmed to fight back so don’t feel bad about having those feelings! Our ego kicks in on a constant basis to help us ward off attacks by others and to keep us grounded in the physical world. Given that, our ego will accept only what it knows or strongly believes. I’m sure many of you have figured out that GETTING it to know and believe anything is NOT easy! The ego has a lot of defenses in place, but again, that’s to help us live in this crazy world! You see, our ego has put a wall of forgetfulness around the fact that we are spiritual beings with spiritual power! Some of us, however, have managed to get past the ego’s defenses (at least for temporary moments of time) and when we do, we can utilize our spiritual power! Meditation and Yoga is one way around the ego. Hypnosis is another. So is sleep! Our ego is connected to our CONSCIOUS mind so when we go inward to our subconsciousness (where we are operating from within our spiritual self) the ego has no effect there! Sometimes we can get our ego to accept things we learn during meditation or spirit contact but not always. It’s just another battle we must overcome…our ego and its blindness to spiritual truths.

imaginationOne way to get past the ego’s defenses is by use of our imagination! Our ego thinks…oh, that’s just pretend stuff, all in the head, it’s not REAL…and so it doesn’t interfere! But understand this…the spirit world DOES exist, we ARE part of it, and our imagination allows us to connect and interact with all that’s “there”. I put quotes around that last word because in actuality there is no “there”. We have only HERE. Our third dimensional mindset, though, can only comprehend things spatially and linearly. Meaning we have “here” and “there” as far as space and distance are concerned, and when it comes to time we think in terms of “now” and “then” or “later”. However, in the spirit world, there is only NOW. But that’s for another discussion and not this one.

Let’s get back to protecting ourselves from negative energy. So, although we are in a physical body which is ruled by the ego, that doesn’t mean we cannot interact with our spiritual self. We need only to become AWARE of it! So, given that, we can tap into our spiritual power whenever we focus inward. If you can’t BELIEVE that, then fine, PRETEND it! (the “fake it till you make it” mentality at work!).

this-little-lightSo, imagine this: within your physical body, you have your spiritual center…your spirit body if you will…and when you are not putting any focus on it, then it is dormant and lets us experience the dramas of life however our ego plays them out and reacts to them. BUT, if we consciously focus on it…BOOM! Our spiritual power is accessible to us! Now here’s something important to remember…when your intention is based on LOVE, the energy is positive and great things will come of it, but if you access your spiritual power with negative intentions, well, things are only going to get super worse, super quick! Spiritual energy is driven by intention, as I mentioned earlier.

Okay, now that you are imagining this “ball of energy” (for lack of a better way to explain it) within you, picture it growing bigger and brighter until it is filling your entire body. Once you have this image clear in your mind, imagine that light is glowing outwardly all around you. This spiritual light protects you from negative energy. However far you expand it out around you, that’s how far from you the negative energy will withdraw. If this energy is coming from a person (and it usually is), then surround them maninlightwith light too. Now, you can’t overcome another person’s will and make them feel or do things BUT you can dissipate the negative energy between you and they will back off. You see, it’s THEIR choice if they want to continue with their negativity but its YOUR choice not to let it affect you. Their bad energy cannot affect yours if you are “powered up”. Our spiritual energy brings calm to us. It protects us from receiving more harm. Others can’t launch attacks at those who are encased within the protective shield of their spiritual light! They just can’t do it!

If you are in a place where bad energy is going on then quickly imagine your inner light growing bigger, brighter and surrounding you. Once you’ve got that vision in place, expand it out into the space around you and watch the negative energy withdraw! Your spiritual light is REAL despite the fact that you are using your imagination to access it! By FOCUSING on it, you bring it into your conscious awareness, and when you place the INTENTION of protection upon it, then that is exactly what it will do! Intention, as I said…and it’s worth repeating…drives the spiritual force within you! Just understand this: you can’t control others with your light, you can only ensure their negative energy can no longer affect you. Although the chances are they won’t understand why, they’ll take their negative selves and beat a hasty retreat!

Now, this works when negative spirit energy (such as a ghost) is around you as well. Many people write in to tell me that spirits are bothering them and they are scared and want to know what they should do. Well, the first thing they need to do is protect themselves. They need to focus on their inner light and put it to work! The negative entity will retreat from their vicinity and the more they expand their light, the further away it must go! That’s how you stay safe. I know, it sounds too easy. It sounds too simple. But whoever said it had to be hard? Oh yes…that ego of ours! (smile)

After a recent incident where negative energy was lobbied at me and my family, I came to understand that I need to be more aware of myself in the spiritual sense, especially when situations like that occur! I need to remember to work with my “light” instead of trying to return the negative energy with more of the same. This recent experience really opened my eyes to the fact that I have a lot of work to do in this area of my personal development. I’m determined to do better about not getting sucked in to the negativity of others. As soon as I sense it going on…I’m activating that light of mine and dealing with it in a POSITIVE manner. At least, that’s what I am going to strive to do! I know my ego is going to interfere as often as possible but I’m going to keep working at it until I have it mastered! Besides, there’s too many great things happening to give focus to the bad stuff.

My motto is this: All things work out in the end, so if it hasn’t “worked out” then it’s not the end.

To make that motto really work for me, I need to use my light a lot more!

So with that, I’ll end this post. PEACE be with you all! And here’s to that light of yours…let it shine, let it shine, let it shine!sunset


100_4043I’ve been so busy lately that I don’t even know what day it is, let alone remember the date! Although I thought life would become more enjoyable than challenging as I moved up in age, the opposite seems to be happening! Then again, my family is a LOT bigger than it used to be and I’ve somehow taken on more responsibilities, so I guess I should have realized that things were not going to slow down or get easy…ever!

One thing I have going on is that I’m writing TWO new books! At first they were neck in neck…I’d work on one book for awhile and then go to the other and work on that one. I was on chapter five with both books when one of them just took off, and now I’m totally caught up in the story and can’t tear myself away from it long enough to work on the other one (which I totally do love by the way!!!). It’s just become too urgent!

The one going wild on me is book six of the Tess Schafer-Medium series. Today I thought of a title for it…Tortured Souls. Although Tess has her hands full dealing with real life issues, she’s also got things going on in the spirit world that need just as much of her time and attention. What strikes me about this is the fact that the book’s premise is probably more true than it is fictional! Fact is, just as we are caught up in our own drama of worry and concern, so can those in spirit!

Whether we are “here” in the physical world or “there” in the spirit world, we are just as focused in our needs and desires as ever! What I enjoy so much about my Tess Schafer-Medium series is that I feel like my character Tess and I are on this amazing spiritual journey together! The stories unfold in ways that are constantly surprising me. My characters feel as real to me as my “real life” peeps and I have to wonder sometimes…perhaps they do exist in an alternate reality! Yeah, that’s what my brain does on occasion…it goes “out there” in it’s meanderings.

So anyway, back to my busy life. My husband and I have decided to downsize our lives and live simpler…we really do work hard at complicating our lives, don’t we? I mean…we buy all these things that we later look at and wonder…what did I need this for. The truly sad part is where those things we thought we just HAD to have end up. They go to the “give away” pile or the “donation” pile or the garbage bin if I think no one will want it (and again I wonder why I ever did!). So anyway, we’ve been renovating our house in the hopes of making it more appealing to possible buyers and weeding through our things, packing away what isn’t necessary (which turns out to be an incredible amount of stuff!), and along with all that we are trying to keep up with the yard work…trimming, weeding, pruning, raking, mowing, etc… Yeah, busy times. Oh, and I’m also trying to write TWO books and deal with all the drama that comes from having a large family!

As I was working on a title for my newest “Tess” book (as I unofficially call the series), I thought about what my character is dealing with…people who are tortured by emotional pain and loss of loved ones (both in this life and the next) and I thought, she’s trying to help these poor tortured souls…and waalaaa…a title! But isn’t it the truth of the world? We deal with emotional pain and mental trauma all the dang time. There’s just always something going on. Life is hard. It really is. It often sucks. Can’t anything ever go RIGHT? But on the flip side…life can be pretty darn thrilling!

2013-10-05 16.46.10We’ve gone on a few camping trips over the summer and we’ve taken some of our grandchildren with us on a couple of them. We enjoyed that so much that it helped to put things back in a more positive perspective. The joys in our lives are no doubt our kids (though at times they can certainly be our “pain”!!) and our grandkids. We’ve also had some great times with friends (angels on earth!). In addition, like right now…the world is exploding with color as the Fall moves in for a short visit (here in Maine, nothing lasts long, especially not the seasons and most certainly not the weather!). Amid all the crap life deals out, there is also amazing beauty and joyful moments.

I know many people like to knock concepts like “The Secret” but you know, the fact is…we really do have the most influence over our own lives and how things play out. Where our FOCUS goes, our energy flows. If we FOCUS on the crap, all we see is crap. We find what we look for and when we are dealing with crap, we EXPECT more crap and so, of course, we LOOK for it! The opposite is true as well. When great things happen to us, it seems that MORE great things happen and life is grand…nothing can go wrong! Until it does. And there we are, right back to the crap, focusing on it, looking for it and ultimately finding it. There we languish through the muck of strife until something good happens and we are once again living the good life! It’s an endless cycle isn’t it?

So anyway, after doing all the work we’ve been doing on our house and around the yard (it sure is looking good around here!!), we learn that the housing market just isn’t going to support a sale of the sort we need. Not right now. Although I was initially disappointed, I have finally managed to stop the mental tirade that was not only bumming me out but giving me stress. I am now telling myself what I KNOW to be true…when things don’t go the way we hope, it’s because something BETTER is in store for us! In every instance where things didn’t SEEM to go right for me, they ended up being the best things to have happened!

100_4065The more we TRUST in the universe (which, of course, operates through God) to take good care of us, the faster things work out! Seriously, I don’t believe our purpose for existence is to live through crap. My belief on the matter is that one of our life tasks (for I am sure there are many!) is to figure out how to eliminate it. One way we can make that to happen is to change our FOCUS and trust in the fact that we are meant, truly meant, to experience Heaven on Earth. It’s not an easy task to accomplish. In fact, most of us might manage, at best, a few fleeting moments of joy. Even so, despite the difficulty in doing so, constant PEACE is achievable. I KNOW it. So, based on this knowledge, I’m trying my best to silence my Ego’s negativity and let the Universe (God) do its thing! Which can only be something wonderful because that’s what God is all about! Our poor tortured souls (of our own doing) are meant to be joyful and at peace. What a rough road our souls often travel in this journey through life!

As I head toward the finish in “Tortured Souls”, I wonder how my character and I are going to get there and it marvels me the way my life often parallels the story I’m writing. The truth, as they say, is stranger than fiction! Speaking of which…that movie Stranger Than Fiction really strikes a chord in me as a writer. I do feel like that sometimes…like my characters really exist in some alternate reality that I just happen to be channeling. In fact, I often feel like that’s what I’m doing when I write my books…I channel them. I’m just like a first-time reader when writing my stories, I’m as eager as they are to learn what’s going to happen next!

Okay, my meanderings are over. Now I’ll address those who are reading my Tess Schafer-Medium series….if you are interested in being informed when the next book is coming out and you are not following this blog (because I will announce it in a future blog post), then click on my contact page and give me your email. I’ll use it ONLY to send out information on what’s happening with my books or maybe appearances I’ll be engaging in…we (my husband and I) are hoping to go on a few road trips in the near future!! I won’t give your email to any lists or marketers and I won’t bother you with anything other than book/appearance updates. Also, because I did mention I was working on two books…I wanted to let you know that the other one is a romance (if I’m not reading paranormal stories then I’m reading romances!!). However, though it’s a romance, I did include a ghost (couldn’t resist!). It’s actually a spin-off from another book I wrote titled “Deceptive Hearts” which will be released around the same time!  So, yeah, lots going on. Thank you God for inspiring the stories and giving me the ability to write them!!!

Until next time…Peace Out and Blessings to All!!


ghostsMany people write in to ask me about making contact with loved ones who have crossed into spirit and though I’ve written other posts about it, I thought I’d write another in the hopes that this one might offer what the others perhaps did not. But before I get into that, many of you might wonder how it is that I am an authority on the subject. Well here’s the best answer I can give: I’m not. BUT, I do make contact with the spirit world and I have wonderful experiences when doing so! It is those experiences that I share. Well, that and what spirit moves me to write! (the creation of anything…such as this blog post…is an interaction with spirit!). I am not a medium in the same way that the late Sylvia Brown was a medium, nor am I anything near as talented as the Long Island Medium, Theresa Caputo. Fact is, MOST people who connect with spirit are not mediums by trade. BUT, everyone has the ability to interact with the spirit world in some way. Problem is, there are many, many people who don’t believe it, are afraid to do it or would rather someone else do the contacting while they simply enjoy the communication as a third party. I know I say the following a lot but it can’t be said enough…we are spiritual beings living in a physical body and given that…we are directly connected to spirit…all the time, every second of every day (making the “we are one” thing a very true statement!).

When we move our consciousness from spirit to the physical world (by entering a physical body), our Ego will eventually take over our life somewhat by filtering our experiences. The Ego’s job is to keep us grounded in the physical world (otherwise, I don’t think we’d want to be here, not at all). But (there’s always a “but” isn’t there?), babies and young children haven’t yet developed their Egos so they have the unique experience of being more aware of the spirit world than those of us who are under our Ego’s influence.

Some of you may have noticed babies looking at apparently nothing and yet appear to be very fixated on something (animals do that too!). We adults can’t see what they see because the Ego has filtered it out. The babies, however, don’t have the Ego to contend with so they can see beyond the physical realm. Since we are speaking of this, I have to tell you about a recurring experience I had when I owned a small family campground. Over the course of time we came to the conclusion that angels hung out in the office area where people came to register for campsites. We arrived at this conclusion because it was quite often that we witnessed babies actively watching something with their eyes, their faces animated with pleasure as they babbled and smiled. They were always looking up toward the ceiling and there was never anything there that we could see. And yet, there had to be SOMETHING holding their delighted attention. The parents of these babies were struck with wonder and even some apprehension for they’d look up, see nothing, then stare at their child in bafflement. I was always quick to point out the fact that whatever they saw, it wasn’t threatening or anything to be concerned about.  Since the babies always reacted joyfully, it can only mean positive spirit energy was affecting them and there can’t be anything wrong with that!

Another strange thing that many people experience is having their children remember a past life. My own son, in fact, used to talk about his “former” life as a man all the time. As a two and three year old, he shouldn’t have known any of the stuff he often talked about. He spoke of having a wife, being in an accident, dying, coming back and even shared his adventures as a pilot in the Korean war! These instances with my son helped reinforce the whole issue of reincarnation for me. I was already a believer, anyway, because as an adolescent on through my teenage years, I had dreams of being another person. These dreams were not strange or bizarre in any way, other than the fact it was ME but not me as I am now. Those dreams had an air of realism to them that made it hard to ignore once I was awake. In fact, upon waking, I often had a hard time reacquainting myself with my current life situation! I also had several prophetic dreams and went through many, many spirit interactions. All these experiences helped to form the beliefs I hold to this day. And that’s how it works with us, right? We learn from experience.

Despite my convictions on what it is I do and do not believe, it used to worry me what others thought, especially if they didn’t agree with me or believed the exact opposite. Thankfully, I’m secure enough in my own convictions that it doesn’t bother me what people think anymore. It just doesn’t matter. After all, I don’t go around trying to press my beliefs on others and just so long as they aren’t trying to do that to me either, then what does it matter? It doesn’t. The only time it matters what others think is when they use their beliefs to inflict harm on other people. I’m thinking of the radical extremists (of any religion or thought process!) that believe it’s okay to treat others with contempt, condemnation and cold-hearted carelessness. When people think they are better than those who are not of like mind, they have a LOT yet to learn! But that’s another intense topic that I don’t want to get into right now! The fact is, once we make up our minds about a belief and it becomes something that we KNOW, well, there’s no changing what IS. I mean (for instance), now that I KNOW the sky is blue, you can’t come along and convince me that it’s really pink. The only way I’d end up changing my mind on the matter is if I have a personal experience that showed me, first-hand, that the sky is indeed pink! (I’m thinking here about the fact that people used to believe the world was flat. No way would they believe otherwise until it was proven to be round!) So for the most part, our acquisition of knowledge comes from our first-hand experiences and we acquire that from our walk through life. Given that, no matter how detailed the telling of another’s walk, they are not MY experiences. What it all boils down to is the fact that we are all on a spiritual quest…a journey of the soul…and we all are taking that journey at our own pace, traveling this way and that, willy-nilly and yon.

I’ve written a previous blog post about this dream I’m about to share but it is such a profound dream that I feel I should share it again. Besides, when a dream sticks with you in absolute clarity after many, many years…well it’s an important dream. One to take heed of. Dreams like that stick around in the mind for a reason! So anyway…I dreamed I was in church. There were no pews, however. The seating area was like what you’d see in an amphitheater. The priest delivered this beautiful message about receiving spirit and how we are all one of God’s own then he invited us to come and share in the “body of Christ” (the Eucharist). Well I went to stood in this really, really long line of people. Needless to say, it was a slow moving line and a hard, arduous one at that! In fact, we had to climb over obstacles along the way. By the time I reached the priest I was soaked in sweat and panting with exhaustion. But by gosh I’d made it! I happily accepted the Eucharist, feeling like I really earned it, and went back to my seat where my companion was already sitting. After I was settled next to him (he was looking remarkably refreshed, I might add!) he asked me, “What took you so long?” and I waved my hand at the long line (which was STILL long by the way!). Then I asked him, “How did you get back here so fast?” and he says, “I just walked right on up to him and he gave me the Eucharist without delay. Why ever did you choose to go in that long line?” And I look and there’s space enough for another line but no one is in it. All I could think as I stared at that empty space was “Why in the world did I get in the other line then?”

I woke up from that dream and was at once struck by its message. In fact, thinking of it now, it puts me in mind of the poem “The Road Not Taken” by Robert Frost. Every time we make a decision about something, it starts us down a new road. And each road has its own set of experiences. What I find most curious is the fact that many of us like to travel the same roads! The ones most traveled. The crowded, jam-packed, challenging ones. Why is it that we sometimes choose those that are beaten down or even destroyed? Despite the choices we make, the time it takes, the obstacles we need to overcome, in the end, we are all going to end up in the same place. Some of us are just going to get there faster (and more easily) than others! And honestly, there are some people in this world that I wonder if they will ever make it at all! But anyway…

My encounters with spirit have led me along the path in life that I now move through and though it’s brought me many setbacks, I’m quite happy to be right where I am! Which is at a point where I know it is possible to talk to those who have passed from physical life and are residing in spirit. The majority of us have encountered SOME SORT of spiritual interaction. Some more bizarre than others I’ll admit for some of the stories people have shared with me have totally baffled my mind! And when that happens, it makes me realize just how much we don’t know about “life” and “being in existence”. Which is why, for me anyway, the quest continues.

I have come to understand a few things and one of them is this: Our spiritual energy is REAL and it’s POWERFUL. I know NOTHING can overpower it unless we ALLOW it. We can connect to this spiritual energy through our imagination. In fact, the imagination is the doorway into the spiritual realm! When the mind is FOCUSED and PURPOSEFUL with INTENT, we can easily connect (become aware) of the “real world”. That being, of course, the SPIRITUAL REALM.

table tipping tableJust a few days ago I  got together with three family members who had recently lost their mother (for two of them) and mother-in-law for the other. The lady who had crossed into spirit was my aunt and when she was physically with us, she LOVED talking to those on the “other side” via table tipping. We decided to try and contact her in the same way so all day long, up until my cousins arrived at my home, I thought about my aunt and sent out an invitation to the spirit world, asking loved ones who wanted to “talk” to us to please come and do so. Although these three women had never table tipped before and were nervous about doing so, that table started in the moment we put our hands on it! My dear aunt was quite, quite ready to operate that table and talk to us! We had a really meaningful experience and my cousins found some peace of mind. It’s very comforting to KNOW that those we love who have crossed into spirit are not GONE and forever lost to us. It’s also a huge relief to be able to ask the questions we needed answered but didn’t ask before they let go of their physical life.

So here’s the thing…I am no more special, or different or talented, gifted etc. than anyone else when it comes to spirit contact. What I am is OPEN to allowing it. What I am is ACCEPTING that it’s possible. The fact is, the spiritual realm shares the same space as we do. However, we are operating on different levels of consciousness (called “realms”, “planes” or “vibrations” by some others). Nothing ever severs the connection BUT it is possible to not be AWARE of the connection. Think of it this way…we all know that there are frequencies in the air that carry sound and when we use a device such as a radio or television, we can tune in to those frequencies. We KNOW the frequencies exist even though we can’t see or feel them. They surround us everywhere! The spirit world works on the same premise. So, given that, the table…in table tipping sessions…is one of the devices we can use to “tune in”. The spirit board (Ouija) is another device. As are Tarot cards though they are more for tapping into spiritual energy than spiritual beings. There are many, many ways to contact the “dead” and many devices to help us do so. Scrying is another way (for those who don’t know what that is, it is a method of connecting with spirit using a reflective surface). Trances, seances, runes, gems, dreams, signs and symbols…the list goes on! There are so many ways because as spiritual beings, we can use ANYTHING we feel we need to use in order to connect with spirit.

Here’s the truth though…you don’t need anything to connect with loved ones on “the other side”. You just need YOU! Setting the mind (the ever vigil EGO) at rest and allowing the connection to occur is all you need to do. And YES, it’s quite HARD to do that for many of us! It helps to focus without distractions so you need to quiet things down and get relaxed, comfortable, before trying to communicate with spirit. Also, it helps to FOCUS on the person you hope to connect with. Picture the person you hope to communicate with in your mind’s eye and then wait in quiet expectation for the interaction to occur. The spirit world operates through EMOTION. There are no words in spirit and no need for them. Words are for the HUMAN experience. In spirit, you will emotionally connect and you will totally understand the connection though not a single word will pass between you! But, if it’s easier for you to converse with words…then allow the conversation to flow between you. It will strike you as “made up” and “unreal” but SOMETHING is inspiring the words, right? When you FOCUS on speaking to someone in spirit and CONCENTRATE with INTENTION on connecting, then the conversation that follows…when done while in deep, peaceful concentration…is a very REAL conversation! One way to measure it’s TRUTH is in how you FEEL. Spirit interaction should ALWAYS be LOVING and PEACEFUL! If you do not feel those two emotions, then it’s your EGO playing it’s silly, HUMAN TRICKERY on you! The personalities we become in physical life are totally capable of trickery but LOVING, SPIRIT entities are NOT. They will not induce fear or anxiety or depression or anything involving negative energy. They just won’t. Ever. Period. So if you feel any of those things…the EGO is involved or a negative entity has come to stir trouble and you should END the contact. You control this world of yours. Not them…not anyone else either. Just YOU. So if you get a negative entity…you tell it to leave and you stop the contact.

The best way to protect yourself from negative energy is by imagining yourself full of light. Just picture your body lit up like a bright, bright light bulb! By focusing on your spiritual light, you supercharge it (though really, it’s ALWAYS super charged but this way you KNOW it and FEEL it!).  Negative energy cannot enter positive energy zones. It’s totally impossible. So, when you see negative energy occurring…surround it with light. Fill and surround yourself with light and ask the loving angel entities that are all around you at all times to help you out. They are very good about lending assistance when asked!!

20140106_132827In the stories that I write…especially my Tess Schafer-Medium series, I try to share through story telling, how to communicate and deal with the spirit world. The good and the bad. I understand that it’s because of evil that people are afraid of the spirit world and since it is possible that we might have to deal with it, KNOW this much…it CAN be dealt with. We are not powerless against it. This is why I have my characters go up against some real negative spirit energies! I want to show, through my stories, that evil cannot cause harm if we actively resist it and use our spiritual energy to combat it. In all my books, the good is always going to win but that doesn’t mean the bad is gone or defeated. As long as there is energy (and since it can’t be destroyed, I guess that’s means forever!) there is going to be positive and negative polarities going on.

Every experience you have is a spiritual experience. Even when it seems that it’s a physical one. Just remember that! If you have someone in spirit you want to talk to…then talk to them! They will “hear” you. Every time. Always. And when someone who is now in spirit suddenly pops into your mind, guess what? They are thinking about you too!! (smile)

Okay, I better stop or I’ll go on forever! Sending out blessings to all and Peace Out!

 


Ghost Trouble eyesI get a lot of comments from people who say that they feel like someone is watching them. Since they know there is no one else around, they are pretty sure the feeling is coming from a ghost, and it freaks them out, makes them uneasy and anxious…and for some, it terrifies them. I know the feeling…been there and done that a time or two or a thousand! It’s not a good feeling. Seriously, it’s bad enough to have someone watching us when we can see them watching us, but to have “someone” watching us that we can’t see? Now that is a spooky, please-make-it-stop kind of uncomfortable. A big part of that fear is the unknown factors. Who is it? WHAT is it? What do they want? Are they going to attack me? Possess me? Do they watch me during private moments when I don’t want anyone watching me?

So, here’s the thing…those in spirit don’t have “eyes” the way we do and thus can’t actually “see” us in the way that we see each other. We live in a physical world and must use our physical eyes to see it. Those in spirit have “spirit eyes”. They sense us, can FEEL us, and they may even be aware of who we are BUT, they can’t actually SEE us or what we are doing. So go ahead and pee and don’t worry that a ghost is standing there watching! Really!

I used to worry about that…being watched in the bathroom…when I lived in the haunted house I’ve talked about in this blog. The idea that a ghost might watch while I took care of business made it very hard to relax and get it done! I couldn’t wait to hurry the heck up and get out of there! Now, of course, I realize that even if I was to sense a ghost in the bathroom with me…that ghost isn’t actually watching me do my business! They are sensing my presence and that’s pretty much it (sort of like what we experience with them). If only someone had told me that back then! It sure would have helped my poor digestive tract a little more!

Another worry that people often express is that the spirits they sense will end up attacking…or worse POSSESSING them! First off, possession is not common and there’s a LOT of conditions that must be in place for something like that to happen. For instance, people with substance abuse problems, mental illness (like schizophrenia for example) and severe depression are a little more susceptible. And, of course, not all people experiencing those things are going to be susceptible. Constant negative thoughts can (and often do!) attract negative entities and when combined with those conditions just mentioned…well, that could POSSIBLY put someone at RISK but again, it isn’t a done deal. So let’s just leave the possession thing alone. Besides, if a possession was going to occur, there would be a LOT more things going on than feeling watched!

A lot of people also say that along with those feelings of being watched, they also are having nightmares. Now, I think their concern is that the nightmares are somewhat prophetic or there’s worry that something LIKE it is going to happen “for real”. No. Nightmares are your mind’s way of acting out your fears. FEAR triggers nightmares. Fear causes us to imagine all sorts of horrors that we worry might happen. Now, although the imagination is the key to opening the door to the spirit world, it is also a way to act out our fears, our dreams, our desires…etc….prior to making SOME of them actually come about. Depending on what you give the most focus to, that is the sort of energy you invite into your life. And by the way, it has to be more than a passing thought or even casual “daydreaming” for it to come into actual creation. You have to CONCENTRATE and FOCUS your energy and do it with INTENTION to bring it into your reality.

As spiritual beings…which we ALL are…we are, at the most basic, most simplistic level…beings of ENERGY. Focused thought activates our source energy and become POWERED UP by our EMOTIONS. So, if you are constantly focused on a particular worry and you FEEL lots of anxiety and fear because of it…then you are generating energy that goes along with those sorts of thoughts. That generated energy attracts more of the same and so you get caught in this terrible negative cycle. Therefore, if you are in a house, for instance, that makes you feel like someone is watching you and you’ve determined it is haunted and since you are scared of ghosts your imagination kicks in, adding more fear to the idea and nightmares happen and more ghostly (paranormal) activity occurs and now you’re thinking you could be possessed or killed or maimed……..do you see how it goes? I’ve been guilty of it myself!

If only someone had told me that haunted or not, negative spirit or not…I HAVE THE POWER TO PROTECT MYSELF and they (meaning anything of any sort) can’t hurt me…then I may have enjoyed a lot more of those seven years that I lived in that freaky old farmhouse! And the thing is…I survived it just fine. As did my family. Every terrifying experience brought about no physical harm. Ever. In truth, pretty much everyone survives their ordeal in a haunted house. The few, few exceptions involve special conditions as mentioned above.

As for me, in any situation in which I have felt threatened (be it from a supernatural source or NOT), I prayed. Let me tell you right now, folks, prayer works! Prayer to the higher power (whoever that is to you…be it GOD, ALLAH, BUDDHA, etc…) WILL protect you. Some have said they did pray and yet the spirit stayed anyway. Well, the good ones aren’t going to go away if you prayed for negative spirits to be vanquished from your presence! Besides, there’s no need for protection from loving entities. And as to that, well some people don’t want loving spirits around them either! And that’s fine, it’s their choice to make. Loving entities will go away when you ask them to. Negative ones won’t. You need to work at it a bit more. But whether they are there or not, regardless how bad they are, you CAN protect yourself. You have within you all the power you need to do it!

It’s really no surprise that negative entities lurk in the dark, slithering along in the shadows. Their personal spiritual energy is “vibrating” to a much slower “speed” than those living in the “light” (which vibrates to a much higher rate of speed than anything in existence!). Let’s take a fan for example. If you spin the blade around with your hand…it isn’t very fast and you can see the blade. That is a slow speed, it generates no energy…no breeze, nothing. Plug that fan into an outlet and turn it on and guess what? You can’t see the blade because it is spinning around too fast. AND the energy is generating wind! Well, light is like the fan that is going at full speed (this is why we can’t see spirits, their personal energy is vibrating to a such a rate of speed they are “invisible”). All beings are high energy lifeforms. You see, we have two bodies…the physical body which is vibrating at a slow rate of speed (all MATTER is dense because its energy is moving slow enough to make it appear solid…like the fan blade that is not under electrical power) and we have our spiritual body which is “plugged” in to our source energy (God in my book). When a person’s spiritual energy is dim (meaning their awareness of God is slim to none) then they are operating on low energy which is considered negative (and I might add here that although negative energy is strong, it will never be stronger than positive energy!). Negative entities work best in the dark. That’s because the energy in those areas matches their own. When they try to operate in the light, they can easily become overpowered. So, by creating light…be it real or IMAGINED (focused thought…intention…is very powerful!) you are generating enough power to combat any and all negative entities. The “light” (of God!) PROTECTS you from its influence. End of story.

When I lived in that haunted farmhouse, I feared two things…I feared the negative spirits present there and I feared thunderstorms (in fact, I still don’t like those storms!). To protect myself from the negative spirits, I prayed. To protect our home from lightning strikes, I prayed and then imagined that God placed a protective shield around our home. EVERY time I did this, our home was left untouched by lightning. I forgot twice and deliberately didn’t do it ONE time (as an experiment) and in all three instances our house was struck! Coincidence?  I think NOT.

So, my advice to those who sense ghosts and feel like they are being watched…I tell them that they are in no danger. Because they aren’t. They’d have to tell me a heck of a lot more than the following to think otherwise: I feel someone watching me. I hear my name being called. I hear footsteps. I felt someone touch me. I feel cold spots. I’m having nightmares. I heard knocking noises. My lights come off and on. My doors open and close. I’m losing things. (Just to name a few of the more common experiences!)

I think knowing you aren’t going to be attacked or possessed goes a long way to calming some of the fear. Right? Then I tell them how they can protect themselves: Prayer, Imagining light around them (or a bubble of protection, that works too!), and mentally sending them away. The thing is…the physical world belongs to the physically living. This is OUR world. We are the boss of it. So, by taking command of your immediate surroundings, you determine what can and can’t happen. You do this by DELIBERATE, FOCUSED INTENTION.

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My favorite form of protection is to imagine myself glowing bright from the inside out. My personal “light” (my spiritual energy) is so amazingly powerful, I don’t need anything else. But some people feel like they need more…so that’s where other things come into play…such as wearing a cross for example. If you believe that is going to protect you…then it will! In Okinawa, Japan, (where I was stationed for three years while serving in the Air Force), they put statues of these mythological creatures called Shi-shi dogs at the entrance to public parks and buildings and personal homes. The Shi-shi dogs have two functions: One keeps the negative spirits away…and the other allows the good spirits to enter! So, those work too! Whatever you believe in will work. And here’s the kicker…whether you BELIEVE in your imaginary light as being protective or NOT, it WILL STILL WORK! Why? Because light is positive energy. That is what it is. Not believing in it isn’t going to change anything. Just like if you are to look at a cup and say, “No, I don’t believe that’s a cup.” Well, guess what…it’s still a cup isn’t it? It is what it is. Don’t you just love that saying? I’ll say it again…it is, what it is.

I just want to add one more thing about why so many people feel like “someone” is around. The fact is, spirits are everywhere! They share the same space as us…just on a different level of consciousness (also known as realm or plane). And when conditions are right, we’re going to feel them…sense them. And of course, since they are around, it’s natural to think they are watching us.

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Memorial Day will soon be upon us. It’s a day to remember military service members who have “fallen”… transformed from physical life to their natural spiritual one! We give thought to them, we thank them for their service to our country, and we remember our loved ones whether they served in the military or not. Memorial Day has come to encompass all who flourish “over there”. There’s no better way to show honor to them than to REMEMBER them and think of them with LOVE in our hearts! That, my friends, is positive energy in motion!!

So, I’ve rambled on enough, I think! I just wanted to share some of what I’ve learned with you because it seems to be a general concern for people who visit my blog! And before I close, I do want to put it out there that I’m going to celebrate Memorial Day by putting my first book in the Tess Schafer-Medium series “Be Still, My Love” up for FREE on Amazon.com (ebook only!) from 25 May to 27 May! (UK folks can click here),

Also, to one lucky commenter on this post (who I don’t know PERSONALLY), I will send a signed physical copy of the first two books in the series (Hidden Voices is book two…UK click here if you want to check that one out)! The names of those leaving a comment and requesting they be entered in the drawing, will go in “a hat” and get shuffled around. I might even post the video to show how it “all went down”! (smile) The commenter whose name is drawn will need to give me an address to send the books to…and I promise to never use the address again! The name drawn will be announced in the blog comments under their name so if you are not tracking the comments or signed up to follow this blog, you’ll have to leave me an email address so I may notify you (send it via the “contact” page in order to keep your email private!). And again, unless you tell me to put that email address on an email list to alert you of future book deals and promotions and release dates, I won’t keep it on file. I am willing to mail to any country in which paranormal books are legal! (smile)

The reason why I want to put Be Still, My Love up for free for a couple days is because it’s the first in a series of five books (so far!) and the medium in it (Tess Schafer, the main character) is grieving over the loss of her husband. Now, he wasn’t in the military and never served…BUT, she loved him and she misses him…just as we do for all our loved ones who have crossed into spirit! It just so happens, though, that she goes on a healing vacation to a haunted resort on the coast of Maine and meets Kade Sinclair, who is a Marine. His military career ended when he was severely injured in a roadside bomb explosion that killed five of his buddies. He’s having a tough time dealing with all that and Tess helps him heal a bit (he really deals with his issues in Ghost Trouble, but that’s another story!) (UK folks can check out that book here). She also receives some healing from her own grief which is great because no one should be sad for their entire lives! Additionally, Tess shares her spiritual beliefs, many of which I too believe and discuss in various blog posts!

Given all that, I thought it was a great book for a day like Memorial Day! My twenty years in the military are forever ingrained into my heart and my thoughts and creating Kade was my way of showing honor to all the wonderful military people out there! He’s a good guy and he deserves to be happy…despite everything. No matter what.

May you all have a safe, happy, glorious and loving Memorial Day!! Blessings to all and Peace out.


Ghost Trouble (ebook) 5-7-14Hello everyone! I’ve been so busy lately that I haven’t devoted the time I need to devote to this blog. So, for the rest of the week…that is going to change. I have a lot of pending comments and I’m going to try really hard to answer as many of them as I can. It’s something I can’t hurry through because I want to be sure to formulate the best reply I possibly can. People write in with so many heart-wrenching and heart-warming (and sometimes really SCARY!) stories and since they took the time to write to me…I need to take the time to write back. So, if you’ve left a comment and I haven’t responded yet…well, I’m going to work on that over the next few days. Promise!

So anyway, I’ve been working on my latest book, Ghost Trouble! This story is told through the “hero’s” viewpoint (go Kade!) and I enjoyed writing this one a lot! I got to see the whole ghostly business from another perspective and that made it interesting in a different way that Tess makes it interesting. Speaking of Tess, she  is just so talented with her interactions with the other side that I thought it would be cool to see what happens when someone NOT of the medium-type variety has to deal with paranormal phenomena. It was really quite interesting.

For those of you who haven’t read my Tess Schafer-Medium series, they are fictional books but I really try to incorporate the things I’ve learned about the paranormal into the stories. I try to make them as realistic as I can without being boring! (I hope!!!) Of course, with fiction, one can take some liberal license to pepper the story a little more colorfully than what people might REALLY encounter, but…well, you never know!

People ask me if any of the stuff in the stories ever happened. Well, I can tell you this…I base SOME of it on personal experience and some of it on experiences others have shared with me. Additionally, I feel like I just sort of “plug in” to the spirit world when I sit down to work on a story. Without any planning, the story unfolds and holds me in its thrall … making me type as fast as I can to find out what is going to happen next! I am as surprised as anyone by the revelations as they occur. Really. Honest to God.

Speaking of God, I’ve received a few upset reviews because of Tess’s “religious” (I think of them as SPIRITUAL) beliefs. Well, I’m not apologizing for including her spiritual perspective in the stories. Tess believes in God. That is who she is as a character. She doesn’t really fit in any particular religious mold, though if I had to place her in one…I’d say she is closer to being a Spiritualist than anything. I, myself, go to a Spiritualist church (though I haven’t gone lately and need to get on it!!!). Like Tess, I believe in the afterlife and that we have the ability to communicate with those who have passed over. I believe that because I’ve done it. I’ve done it through automatic writing, through table tipping, through the Ouija, and through channeling. All have been amazing experiences and (thankfully) I’ve never had anything as terrifying and scary as Tess has had to deal with!

I do, on occasion, have pretty intense dreams…some of them terrifying…but in all of them I wrestle with spirits and come out of it unscathed. I think that is spirit’s way of telling me that I’m doing okay. That my character has it right…you CAN interact with the other side and do it SAFELY. BUT, you need to know what you are doing and you need to take proper precautions to ensure negative entities don’t come through. Because they’ll try. They will. Causing trouble is what they do (which is why poor Kade is dealing with “Ghost Trouble” as a matter of fact!).

However…MY belief is that NOTHING is stronger or more powerful than God, the Infinite Intelligence, the Creator, the Knowing One…or whatever you want to call it. The label placed on the Almighty One doesn’t matter.

I am just amazed that three years ago the Tess Schafer-Medium series didn’t exist. Not until about June of 2011 when I wrote the first in the series, “Be Still, My Love”. Now here I am on book 5!!

My supernatural thriller “No Matter What” was influenced by my teenage years and all the stuff I was learning about the paranormal while trying to figure out what was going on in that haunted old farmhouse I lived in! I first wrote it when I was in my mid teens. I finished it when I was in my forties! It’s my favorite of all my books but I have to say that Tess and Kade have a special place in my heart as well. They take me on their ghostly journeys and spirit is helping me write them. It’s very cool.

So, anyway, this is a short post. I just wanted to share what was going on in my life. I won’t make all my posts about my books but since I’m celebrating yet another publication, I just wanted to include links to them all in this one. If anyone is curious about future book releases, you can just follow this blog or “like” me on Facebook! I will keep people updated on my author life even as I continue to share other things that interest me, especially if it involves the paranormal world!

Okay, that’s it for today! May you all be showered with joyous blessings!!

 

20140106_132827 (800x777)The Tess Schafer-Medium Series

Grieving medium Tess Schafer travels to a haunted resort on the coast of Maine and while helping two lovelorn ghosts, finds healing from her own heartbreak. With the whispered words “Be Still, My Love” Tess learns to overcome her grief and move on with her life.
Her travels to Bucksport, Maine, to investigate the mystery of town founder Jonathan Buck’s cursed graveside monument has her investigating “Hidden Voices from beyond and solving a mystery that has plagued the town for over a century.
With more paranormal mysteries to solve, Tess decides to make her home in Bucksport, but she is soon busy “Vanquishing Ghosts” in order to remain there!
When Tess answers the call for help on a small island on Silver Lake, she becomes reluctantly involved helping with “Rosemary’s Ghosts” and going through hell to do it!

And now, Tess has gone for a visit with family, leaving her boyfriend Kade to deal with some “Ghost Trouble” all on his own…well, with a little help from some friends!

 

In the supernatural thriller No Matter What, a few folks in a small New England town find themselves embroiled in a centuries old tragedy that will forever affect their souls if they don’t make right a past wrong!

 


I had these amazing, easy-to-achieve (or so I thought!) goals which I was DETERMINED to make happen back in January (when we are all revved up with New Year Resolutions) and guess what? Yeah, I sort of lost my oomph and my motivation has fizzled to a mild simmer. Those goals (some of them anyway) now sit on the back burner of my mind (bummer that) though I am attempting to turn up the heat again (Go, Deb!). It’s not like I stopped caring and lost the HOPE to make those things happen (lose weight and have more contact with spirit for starters!) but, LIFE GOT IN THE WAY! Has that happened to you? You are plugging along, doing the necessary things to reach your goals and suddenly this happens and that happens and other things happen, and so on and so on! I have a large family and a great group of friends and when things go on with them…well, it affects me too. I care about their lives and so I become involved with their problems. In fact, sometimes I’m taking on their problems and trying to fix them myself! The thing is, this can’t be done! No matter how hard we try and how well intentioned our thoughts, we were not put here to solve the problems of others! We were born to figure out how to solve our own! And often, by doing so…we help others do so as well!! Not because we are doing it for them but because they learn by seeing our lessons in action. Or because we give them the steps we followed to achieve the success (though there are many stairways to success…there is not just ONE way to achieve a goal and this we must all keep in mind. It isn’t a “my way or fail” process!) The fact is, though, that the people close to us often learn by SEEING us put our learned lessons into action. At least SOME of them do. Others keep their blinders on and we can’t MAKE them see. Though we do try, don’t we?

The fact is this: We are all responsible for our OWN lives…our own decisions, our own actions…and experiencing the consequences occurring as a result of those decisions and actions! We can’t and shouldn’t live someone’s life for them! We can, though, be supportive and encouraging … without taking over. A fact I am still trying to learn. Also, have you noticed when something unfortunate happens…suddenly there’s a SERIES of unfortunate events? (uggh!!) One thing I eventually put into practice (after first panicking and negatively reacting) is calming myself down (something I have to consciously make happen). I have to TELL myself to stop fussing and worrying over it and when I do that, all the chaos calms down! Truly. I tell the Universe (God, the Infinite Intelligence…whatever you believe) what my wish is … my best outcome for the situation, and then I LET IT GO. Meaning I trust it will work out. But I don’t do this at first. No. At first I am like the majority of the world…I panic, I get worried, I fret and sputter and worry some more! Then I have a talk with myself.

“Deb, you’ve been through WORSE, much, much worse and how did it all work out? Fine. It all worked out just great. Why is that? Because you presented your problem to the universe and trusted God to bring it all to a positive end. And it did! Every    single    time. Besides, it isn’t as bad as all that!”

If any of you are like me and some others I know…we can over dramatize anything. We are great at building mountains out of mole hills! So, when I finally realize what I’m doing…I turn it back into a mole hill then ask the universe to send the mole away! Works like a charm. Until the next time. And then here I go again…passing through the process once more. One of these days I’m going to skip all the fretting and worrying and dramatizing that I put myself through and get right to the part where it all works out!

So, here it is the month of April and I weigh about TEN pounds MORE than I did in January! I haven’t connected much with spirit either. Though I have to say in my defense on that one…I feel connected to spirit on a daily basis! Every time I sit down to work on a book, in fact, I truly feel like I “plug in” to the spirit consciousness and take on their dictation. Honestly, I don’t know where the story flow comes from but without any sort of plotting, the stories develop and then end up connecting to each other in the most amazing way! It puts me in awe of the whole process. It truly does. Any of you do something like that? Do you suddenly get an idea or inspiration and you don’t know where it came from but suddenly it’s in your head and you are bringing it into being? And then when you are done…you are just so amazed by it?

When I started the Tess Schafer-Medium series, I only knew that I wanted to write a book series involving a gifted medium…one who wasn’t all that trained or sure about her ability…one who even QUESTIONED her beliefs and talent. I wanted to experience and learn things with her. And that I’m doing! When writing the Tess stories, I pull from my own experiences, my own beliefs and my own DISbeliefs, but I also just seem to pluck things out of the air (I love that expression because it’s actually quite accurate!). I explore the world of spirit through my characters and I hope my readers do as well. In fact, part of my hope is that my books will offer something of use to people curious about the paranormal world. I want others to see that although evil exists and we must take care…we can interact with those on the other side and do so without fear of inviting evil into our world.

With only that vague premise in mind, I started writing. I just sat down and began Tess’s story and now I’ve just completed book FIVE of the series (titled Ghost Trouble) and I’m very excited to get it published! I’m hoping the ebook will be ready by the first part of May (I’ll be sure to send out a celebratory post when that happens!). My fingers are crossed.  What amazes me about the stories is the fact that they all tie in to each other in some way. Now, this happened without my conscious intention. So, without plotting and planning, I ended up with a book series that would make one think that I had to plan and plot! The story flow just comes when I sit down to write. I sometimes have a vague idea of what I THINK might happen and then something completely surprising will occur and blow mind mind away. Yeah, I’m going to admit it…sometimes I am in awe of myself. But you know…we should all be that way. We are children of God and capable of the awe which comes from having such a lineage!

My goals at the beginning of the year haven’t changed. I still want to be better organized and I’m slowly but surely making that happen. You wouldn’t know it looking at my house right now but it’s a fact that things must become MORE unorganized as  you drag it all out into the open and begin the process of putting it all back…IN SOME ORDERLY, ORGANIZED fashion! I still want to lose weight but as I mentioned earlier, I ended up gaining a few more pounds rather than losing them! (sigh). No matter. Today is a new day and the goal is still there. I’ll do even smaller steps to make it happen (if the steps we have planned out end up being too much to follow…break it down some more!). I know that once we take positive action (no matter how minor) to reach a goal and continue to do so, eventually the steps get bigger and then we are running for the finish!

I came across an amazing book called “You Can Heal Yourself” by  Louise L. Hay and in it she talks about the fact that all physical problems/ailments are a reflection of spiritual/emotional issues. Through extensive study, she has found commonalities that has helped her develop an outline of physical ailments (or unwanted developments) and their related mental/emotional stigma. She has found that the most probable causes for weight problems to be as follows: fear (an emotion involved with ALL ailments/problems), the need for protection (we all want to feel SAFE), running away from feelings (we don’t want to face), insecurity and self-rejection (two biggies for many of us). Louise says weight problems can be solved by creating new thought patterns (we hear this all the time from New Age and self help gurus but you know…it’s TRUE!). We must tell ourselves that we are at peace with our feelings (too many of us get upset with ourselves for feeling bad, mad, discouraged or negative! Understand that this is a NORMAL human reaction and then let go of your discouragement for feeling that way. Acknowledge how you feel but don’t get down on yourself for feeling that way!). We must come to realize that we are SAFE where we are (in whatever circumstance) and that is so because we all create our own security (YES! We have the power to do that!!). We must come to love and approve of ourselves. And why shouldn’t we? Despite our lives and actions and decisions, we are souls of God and in the end…THAT is what matters!

Now, based on the premise of that book, I have to really explore my life in order to identify the probable causes for my weight problems and then apply the suggested new thought patterns to correct the issue. I can’t correct an issue that I don’t understand. I now realize that my weight is a reflection of the fact that I am not satisfied with my body (I think it stems all the way back to childhood when I would compare myself to someone I admired and find I didn’t compare well!! Not to my critical mind anyway). It’s a fact that I am overly critical of myself and always have been and so that affects my poor ole body and how it’s presents itself to the world. Our bodies, you know, are reflections of the images we see within our minds. ALL THINGS and how we view them are created from our own thoughts and perceptions! So anyway. I need to stop being so critical of myself and love this body of mine just as it is. As I come to accept and love myself AS I AM, my body will then conform to the image I am striving to obtain. Loving ourselves brings about the most amazing transformation!

Another thing that I have hopes to accomplish this year is to get my books out to all those who would like them! I know sometimes they land in the wrong hands and are not appreciated in the least…those people leave very biting reviews on Amazon to let me know as much! And just so you know…I do realize that not everyone is going to like my writing and I expect that, it’s the criticism for my characters’ BELIEFS that I find interesting. The thing is, it is not for those people that I write (I am, however, sorry they feel like they wasted their time and money!). The fact is…I write for myself because I LOVE to write and I love the stories that come through, and I write for those who get as much pleasure from the stories as I do! There are a lot of paranormal books on the market but many of them are about vampires and zombies and black magic and the like. The ghosts are usually really evil or overly friendly!  I write stories that I think are possible (though I suppose in another reality somewhere vampires and the like are possible!). My own experiences often find their way into my stories. The fact is, I am fascinated by the paranormal world…by our spiritual side of life…and so I just love a story that involves those elements.

Another thing I am trying to accomplish this year is getting organized. I’m slowly moving in that direction. I just feel so much better when I know where everything is and can look around and see that everything has a place. I truly believe that when our environment is in ORDER, then we are much more at peace and orderly as well. Chaos in any form is unsettling. Order is peaceful. So, I’m working on it.

Finally, I am trying to get a handle on my finances. I am tired of being in debt. My goal is to stop being a slave to indebtedness and working to PAY someone else!  My goal is to get to a place where my earnings are mostly mine to do with as I will. That means having the means to do more traveling! There are so many wonderful things in this amazing world that I want to see and experience and I can only do that if I have the FUNDS to do that! I know that keeping my eye on all these goals will ensure that I realize them! Setting goals is as good as telling the universe what you INTEND to have. My problem right now is that I am SLOW to manifest these things. If only I could figure out how to speed up the process. If I do figure it out, I’ll let you know.

So, anyway, I am now in the process of getting “Ghost Trouble” published and I’ve started going to Yoga classes (which I find very enjoyable and invigorating!). And as mentioned, I’m getting my home organized. Also, I am whittling down my debt a little at a time … enough so that I am actually SEEING some positive results!

How are you all doing with your goals? Do you have any advice to give those of us still striving to achieve ours? Have any of you read any of my stories? Do you find them helpful at all? I totally LOVE hearing from those of you who have read my books. Good or bad, I am just so curious as to your thoughts!

If you haven’t met your goals yet and are thinking about shelving them for good…don’t give up! Keep your FOCUS on what you want…give it to the universe to help make it happen…then go with it! One tiny little step at a time. You can achieve anything. You have within you the capability for all you can imagine!

Until next time blessings to all and peace out!


41ViDwUfFlL._AA160_One of my favorite book series is the Odd Thomas stories by Dean Koontz. Although these books are more in the horror/thriller category and not something I typically read (I prefer spooky/scary), I just fell in love with Odd. So much so that I named my strange little kitten Odd as well. The name totally fits him. So anyway, I’ve always thought they should make a movie on these books and it seems that one did get done! One movie made and probably the last (bummer, that).  I was recently contacted by another Odd Thomas fan, Spencer Blohm, who wanted to share with us what he knows about this interesting and disappointing development.

Spencer likes doing guest posts on other blogs so if you are interested in him doing one for you, leave a comment and let him know! I’m sure he’d be happy to contact you and discuss it. He is a freelance blogger/copywriter who generally specializes in entertainment, culture, music, fashion, and lifestyle topics. He lives and works in Chicago and you can follow him on Twitter under @bspencerblohm.

So, read on, Odd fans (and those who might BECOME Odd fans), and see what the fuss is all about!

The Battle Behind Odd Thomas

by Spencer Blohm

 

91XzqrcEIXL._SL1500_The new film Odd Thomas is based on the book series of the same name by bestselling author Dean Koontz, which has been discussed on this site before. What makes this film stand out from other Dean Koontz adaptations is the controversy and legal disputes surrounding its creation. Despite filming in 2011 and a predicted fall 2013 release, the film will likely never see U.S. theaters. Fighting between the producers and financial benefactors of the film led to the film being shelved for months, and only recently has the film become available solely through DirecTV (see Direct-Ticket.net for details). The lawsuit in question alleged that the film’s financiers failed to provide $35 million to help pay back production loans and marketing and distribution fees. As a result, the film received zero promotion and advertising; only a small amount of word of mouth hype via the internet was passed around.

Still, for those looking for an interesting watch, Odd Thomas should be considered despite the initial issues following its creation. What makes Odd Thomas an interesting film is its unique paranormal aspect: the film follows main character Odd as he struggles with his ability to communicate with the dead and see demonic ghostly figures known as Bordachs, who only appear when death, disaster, and suffering are imminent. Most of the film is spent detailing Odd’s investigation into why a large swarm of Bordachs would be following a regular customer of the restaurant Odd works in, a man he dubs, simply, “Fungus Bob.”

The film itself has more of a sci-fi quality to it, as opposed to a paranormal/horror feel that one might expect from such a plot. It’s an interesting yet expected approach taken by director Stephen Sommers, who gained fame by directing sci-fi/action films like The Mummy, Van Helsing, and G.I. Joe: The Rise of Cobra. Perhaps due to a lack of experience in the strictly paranormal film genre, the eerie quality of the book becomes a bit lost in the shuffle of the film. In addition to that, the deeply thought out characters and plotline of the novel appear slightly staggered on screen, and as a result never fully allow viewers to understand the complexities of the individual characters.

The star of the film, Anton Yelchin (best known for his role as the titular character in Charlie Bartlett), does emerge as a quirky, alternative dream boat for the younger generations and shows promise for future roles. Anton has obvious on screen charisma and agility within some of the rapid fire dialogue and plotlines, but gets shortchanged. The film clocks in at only 95 minutes, which is hardly enough time to fully understand any of the characters, especially the secondary characters. The editing also left a few holes in the plotline in addition to the character development issues, possibly a result of the post production problems that plagued the entire project.

All in all, the film shows promise for what could have been, but will likely never come to be. The Odd Thomas series has produced some of Koontz’s best-selling novels and boasts millions of fans worldwide who would undoubtedly embrace a film series chronicling the adventures of Odd. However, due to the post production issues and the VOD release of the film in the U.S. it’s unlikely that a sequel will ever see the light of day, let alone the entire series. If you are a fan of the book series or of Dean Koontz give the film a shot, but chances are this will be the first, and last, Odd Thomas movie to be made.

Thanks, Spencer, for sharing this with us! I was bumming that I don’t have Direct TV and then I discovered that you can now purchase the movie on Amazon here!

If you are curious to see the movie trailer, then click here and if you would like to check out all the Odd Thomas novels, you can find them all listed on Amazon if you click here.

Have any of you seen the film? If so, what are your thoughts on it? Please share! As for me, I’m definitely going to check it out and I’ll hold out hope that a miracle will happen for future movies to be made on this series!

Once again, I would like to express my thanks to Spencer Blohm for guesting on my blog. Until next time…many blessings to all and Peace Out!


Have you ever heard it said that if you “dream it” and “believe it” you can “achieve it”? What about statements like “follow your dreams” and “dream big” and blah, blah, blah? All meant to be great words of wisdom to be sure but how many people do you actually know who had all sorts of dreams but NOTHING came of them? How many people do you personally know who are LIVING THEIR DREAM? On this last I can bet this much…zero. Zilch. Nada. After all, once you do manage to achieve one of your dreams you immediately create more and the dream you had (the one achieved) no longer matters. The NEW dream has taken over your focus. It is a select few who can lay claim to “living the dream” and they can say that because it still matters to them.

???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Here’s the thing. Dreaming is all well and good but the problem with dreams is they are often so far in the distance (a far off future) that we often give up reaching for it. Not everyone of course, there’s always the exception, but I am not the exception. Now, I dreamed when I was a teenager of becoming an author. I did nothing about that dream until two years ago…THIRTY plus years out of my teens and I get serious about those dreams. (Sigh) But hey…I ACHIEVED it! Five books so far!! Yay!! And happy as I am about that…I already have new dreams to moon over.

The thing about dreams is the fact they are nothing more than fantasies unless you ACTIVELY do something to achieve them. We can imagine all sorts of grand things BUT if we just sit back and keep thinking about it, nothing…absolutely NOTHING…is going to come of them. I mean, the universe isn’t going to send someone to your door and say, “I heard you were dreaming about being an author? Well, let me make that happen for you!” Again, there could be an exception to this scenario but it didn’t happen to me and I’m willing to bet big that such a circumstance hasn’t happened to a majority of other people reading this blog either!

I’m reminded of the story about this man who wanted to win the lottery. He kept dreaming about it and dreaming about it and praying for it to happen. But time goes on and on and despite all his affirmations and believing and praying, he doesn’t win the lottery. He complains to his friend about it and this wise friend of his says, “Well, you have to first buy a lottery ticket before you can win the lottery.” Now, I know there are variations to this little story but this one is mine. So anyway…do you see the point of it? Dream achievement requires ACTIVE PARTICIPATION from the dreamer!

One thing we must accept when it comes to making dreams a reality is the fact that we DESERVE the obtaining of them. Each and every single one of us (with the exception of true scumbags and evil doers of course!) deserve to live the life we “dream” about. But here’s another thing…that dream will be nothing more than a FANTASY, a dream in your head, until you actually DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Making dreams come true requires EFFORT. You have to WORK for it. We are of an age where so many people don’t want to EARN a damn thing. They want it given to them with little effort (if any) on their part!

Camping and Flowers 003So, I was thinking about this and thinking about this and I decided that I needed to stop “dreaming” and start DOING. You know that NIKE slogan “Just do it”? Well, that should be our “obtaining of dreams” logo too! So when I say I’m “done with dreaming”, what I mean is I’ll keep fantasizing about having my book sales go crazy like they did with that “50 Shades of Gray” series but the fact is this…that is NOT GOING TO HAPPEN without any effort on my part! I need to PARTICIPATE in the realization of my dreams. I must DO SOMETHING or those dreams are going to stay right where they are…in my head enjoyed by only my thoughts.

I was reading somewhere that people start out the new year with all these well meaning, well intentioned resolutions and by February, they are done. Why is this do you think? Because we stop caring? Because it suddenly doesn’t matter? NO! Because the fact is, most of us have set ourselves up for failure. At the beginning of the year when we make these resolutions we somehow rally the troops of enthusiasm and zip out of the gate at a full gallop but when results don’t happen INSTANTLY, we become discouraged. And then more discouraged. And then our enthusiasm wanes. Just how long does it take to lose a measly 25 pounds anyway!!? Sheesh. Why the heck haven’t those bills disappeared yet and why in this crazy world is my house MORE unorganized than it was before I started out organizing it!? We are our own worst enemy. I’m sure you’ve heard that a time or two. But it’s true. We set ourselves up for failure because of those dang dreams. We want THAT and we want it NOW! (makes me think of that song by Queen … I want it all and I want it now! )

So, I’m going to stop DREAMING and start DOING. I’m going to take my life into my own capable hands (we are all capable of accomplishing whatever we put our minds to by the way!) and I’m going to set goals. Small ATTAINABLE ones that I can actually achieve by the end of the day! As the days pile up, all those achievements are going to lead to…yup, you guessed it…my DREAMS!

Now, I have three dreams right now. Okay four. Well, maybe five.  One is to get organized. I’m tired of the mess around me and not finding stuff. Two, I want to rid my body of all this extra weight it put on during the past year. Three, I want to pay down my mountain of bills. Four, I want to connect more with spirit!  And five, I want to get on the New York Times Best Seller List! Yes, I know, that last is a doozie but let me tell you, losing 25 pounds isn’t easy either! Nor is getting organized or paying off bills for that matter. As for connecting with spirit, well that one is actually pretty easy, I just need to set more time aside to do it!

Camping and Flowers 042So, day by day I am going to do things that will lead toward those dreams. For instance, I had a pile of receipts and bills and statements mounting at an alarming rate on my desk. One goal was to tackle them. DID IT! Goal achieved. Step one toward that dream of getting organized is done! Another goal was to cut out white sugar and flour from my diet. DID IT! Goal achieved. Step one toward losing those 25 pounds has been taken! Now granted, on that sugar and flour thing…that’s a DAILY…sometimes HOURLY achievement but each hour that goes by without the consumption of either is an achievement. Getting my blog updated regularly is something that goes along with my writing dream! My blog helps me to focus and exercise my writing skills…which is something I must do in order to get BETTER. The old adage “use it or lose it” totally applies here. Writing more books is another thing I need to do if I want to make that “best seller” dream of mine. So now my daily goal is to write, even if all I manage is a page or two or maybe even just a few paragraphs. Regardless how much I write, I MUST WRITE.

So, you see what I am doing? I am creating on a DAILY basis, small ATTAINABLE goals that all are tiny little ATTAINABLE steps towards those DREAMS of mine! And if on any given day I don’t reach a goal, no biggie. I just start again the next day…or RIGHT THEN for that matter. I haven’t failed in reaching my dream…I just missed a step. Steps are EASY PEASY to make up!!

Seven days ago I decided to eat healthier choices to shed some of this poundage and I’ve shed 3.6 pounds. It’s not a lot but guess what…seven days from now, if I keep that up, I’ll have lost over seven pounds! By the end of the month I could lose 15 pounds or so! Now, it’s not my DREAM to lose 15 pounds in a month. I know better than to set that goal. I’d be setting myself up for failure I’m sure. So I’m keeping to the DAILY goal of cutting out sugar and flour and making healthier choices. The weight will come off eventually. A day will come and I’ll be 25 pounds lighter and I’ll be jumping for joy for having achieved a dream! So you see? Though my dream is to lose 25 pounds, I am not focused on that. I am focused on getting through the day…hell, getting through each HOUR of the day…without consuming sugar and/or flour products. These goals I’m making are ATTAINABLE. I am not going to sabotage my dreams by setting unrealistic, hard-to-achieve-in-the-best-of-circumstances kinds of goals. I’m not reaching for “the dream”… I’m SUCCESSFULLY creeping my way toward it! Success breeds enthusiasm and enthusiasm breeds motivation and that, of course, it what is going to help me keep focus and make the little goals happen. By February, this little engine that could will be chugging right along…at a snail’s pace maybe, when comparing it to dream achievement, but rather speedily along when comparing it to goal achievement!

smart-goals1So, yeah I’m no longer focusing on “the dream”. I have broken it down into teeny, tiny baby steps of goal attainability. Dreams are the stuff of reality but it’s the WORK, the small goals we achieve, that bring reality into being. And you know what? I CAN DO THIS! So can you. Day by day, hour by hour, work toward your dreams but FOCUS on what you are doing RIGHT NOW. By living in the moment…dealing with NOW, all the little steps you take will lead you to those dreams. Just see if they don’t. I challenge you!

Okay, I’m done for now. You can be sure I’ll keep you posted on my progress. And I would love to hear your goals and achievements too! We’ll keep each other motivated. And to keep ME motivated…I look at one dream realization that took me over 30 years to accomplish…my books! 20140106_132827


20140106_112216So we are nearly a week into 2014 and I’ve pretty much munched my way through all the baking goodies, the candy and the too-rich-to-be-consumed-all-year-long drinks. I’ve packed on more poundage this past year than ever before but that’s because I’ve actually kicked my writing career into overdrive…meaning I did a LOT of sitting! Although I’ve tried doing tummy crunches while sitting at the computer, I get so involved in what I’m doing that I eventually forget about that and then when I remember again, the motivation is gone. I like to sit and munch while I work on my stories. Now that I’m determined…absolutely DETERMINED to stick with a more healthy lifestyle, I don’t know how I’m going to fill that void! Even so…I’m going to do this. I have never weighed this much in my life. Not even with my third pregnancy (when I gained the most) and was ready to pop did I weigh this much. My clothes are tight and I’m tired all the time. I’ve been wearing a lot of “gym clothes” without the benefits of their intended usage!

Yes, I have fallen into a very bad rut. And now that I’ve managed to devour all the holiday goodies I couldn’t bring myself to throw away, it is time to get serious on this issue of weight LOSS. Also, I want to work more on my interactions with spirit! I’ve been so busy writing (which to me is an interaction with spirit but on a different level) that I haven’t given time to anything else! Including my poor house. I figure part of my exercise regimen will be house cleaning. Of the strenuous kind. Not the halfhearted stuff I’ve done here and there up to this point. Those rugs are getting SCRUBBED. Those floors are going to SHINE. And all that dust build up is not going to be ignored any longer!

So, it’s out with the old way of life…lots of sitting, lots of eating, lots of turning a blind eye to my house, lots of procrastination…and on with the new: exercise, less eating and more healthy choices when I do, housework and spirit contact. The last part is kind of an odd ball isn’t it? But I do want more connection with my angels, my spirit guide, the universe (God), and whoever else wants to come through (of the positive and good kind of course!).

So, to make myself stick to this, I have stated my intentions to all of you. Now, since I don’t want to come across as a failure, I better stand behind my convictions and do it. From time to time I will check in with ya’ll and let you know my progress. From my weight struggles, to my housework to my spirit contact…I’ll share it all. And if any of you want to join in and share with me your own resolutions and how you are doing…PLEASE do so! WE CAN DO THIS! Right? All it takes is a plan and determination to follow through. Setting goals…that is KEY. Just doing something isn’t enough. We are humans and we humans need goals. We need to strive towards the completion of something. Otherwise, we are aimless. We lose focus when we are aimless. And then we lose our determination. Depressed, we fall back into the same rut we were hoping to get out of. That is not going to happen this time. No sirree.

So, I rounded up all the fattening stuff in my house and I put it away. My sensibility won’t let me throw perfectly good stuff away so I am putting it out of reach. To the shed, in sealed containers it goes. After my morning tea (no coffee for me because I can’t drink unsweetened coffee!), I exercise for at LEAST a half hour then do something around the house. After appointed tasks are complete, I’ll have a light snack. Some computer work and writing then lunch. Some stretches (important to do when working on the computer for hours and hours!) and a little more housework then back to writing (I’ve two books I am in the process of completing!). Sometime in the afternoon, when I have some peace and quiet (meaning no grandkids running under feet!)…I will do something with spirit. Meditation for starters! I’ll record my results then start preparations for a healthy dinner! After that, a little relaxation should be well earned. My husband likes to exercise in the evening so I’ll toss in an hour of that with him then head back to writing for a bit. That is going to be the gist of my day. Once I achieve my goal of 25 pounds LOST, I will adjust things just a little. Maybe add coffee back into my life…but with a lot less sugar! I’m hoping, though, that I develop new habits that are better for my body and my mind. Habits, after all, are much easier to follow!

So on day six of the year 2014, I begin my new way of life. I can feel the spirit world all aflutter because they know how much they are going to be part of this plan. Things should get mighty interesting around here. That’s all I’ve got to say about it.

What say you? Any New Year Resolutions you want to share with us? Want to join me in this quest to “make it happen”? State your plan and then check in with us periodically to let us know how you are doing. Let’s bolster each other up. And if you are hoping to make contact with spirit…I can’t wait to learn how you went about it and how it all went down. Honestly, I’ll share with you everything I do in that respect. I’ll try an experiment and then let you know the results. Maybe you will try it too and share yours. This could get really, really interesting.

So, until I check in with you…say a few days from now (no daily blogging for me, I already know I won’t be able to maintain that sort of schedule. If anything, I MUST be realistic with my goals), I wish you all luck with whatever you have going on that you WANT going on!

Peace be with you. Happy New Year!! 2014 is going to be a great one for us. I just know it.


Spiritualist Church AngelSince starting this blog, which mostly features posts geared toward the strange and unusual world of the paranormal…I’ve heard from people all over the world. They have shared with me and my blog readers stories of their struggles, concerns, worries and the like. I do believe that when we are dealing with negative stuff…we focus on the negative stuff (because, after all, that is what is going on and of course we are going to focus on it!) and then MORE negative crap happens (where your focus goes, so your energy flows!)

Same with ghost/spirit trouble. You have a problem with one ghost and suddenly they are everywhere! You have family problems and suddenly everyone is upset! You have money trouble and suddenly you are burdened with financial woes! One thing breaks down and suddenly everything is going kaput on you! On and on it goes.

Never are the ups and down of life so apparent as they seem to be than during the Christmas season. It’s a great holiday, representing something quite fantastic, but it’s also a depressing time of year for many. People start thinking about loved ones lost to spirit and miss their physical presence, those who can’t afford gifts for their loved ones feel the crush of disappointment over it pressing down on them, those that go through life on their own feel even more lonely when they see all the “togetherness” going on around them. It’s a great time of year and it’s the worst time of year. BUT, it doesn’t have to be one or the other. No.

To get the Christmas “spirit” flowing…you start spreading some of it! The more you spread, the more comes back to you! It does work like that (and as easily as that!) but it’s hard to get going if things are that bad. When things are going rough for me, I think back to one of the darkest periods of my life (nothing ever has gotten as bad as that ever since! Besides, the story that follows explains why I keep thinking about it).

I was going through a terrible marital breakup and for awhile I thought there was NOTHING good going on in my life. Other than the blessing of my three kids, life totally sucked. My job was a challenge because I’d switched to an area that resented my presence (I was in the military at the time and we were combining two different career fields into one…of course both career fields resented the other! I was moved to the new section and needless to say, they didn’t think I belonged there!), my boss (supervisor) was an ass…no other way to put it! He had ZERO sympathy for the heartbreaking anguish going on in my personal life. His cold responses to my emotional pain made things that much worse! My husband at the time thought a girl half his age was THE THING and though I managed to get him away from her (while offering her condolences by the way…I thought he was as deceitful to her as he was to me!), he soon found another to take her place! My kids were upset to be losing their daddy and so I had their tears to deal with as well as my own!  My finances were a MESS and … as I said, my heart broke. With Christmas rapidly approaching, things just seemed to be getting worse. How was I going to buy gifts for the kids? How was I supposed to show any happiness when I felt NONE? How was I supposed to FEED the kids, let alone find them Christmas presents?

Well, despite all my worry and misery, I prayed. And God heard (as ALWAYS!). Honestly, folks, there is POWER in PRAYER! Although I hadn’t been to church in many years, a couple that lived nearby and were good friends (he and I worked together in the military), convinced me to go to church with them. Although I’d been resisting their invitations for quite some time, one Sunday morning I was tired of moping around the house feeling sorry for myself so I called and said, “Okay. I’ll go to church with you!” Now what do you suppose the church was featuring on that day…my first time going? A six-part series on the LAW OF MONEY. I must reiterate here that my financial situation was quite bad! My kids and I were eating a lot of Ramen noodles, mac and cheese and fluffernutter sandwiches. I kept getting overdraft charges in my checking account and I barely had enough gas in the car to get to work…let alone make a trip to church! But I dressed up the kids and off to church we went. The kids thought it was a treat to get out of the house and I have to admit…I felt the same.

So, the preacher announces that he is going to be doing a six part series on the Law of Money and that it was important none of us missed the next five weeks. Interestingly enough, the church was undergoing some major renovations at the time so it might have been what prompted the “money” series but I don’t care. I felt it was God talking to me…that it was God that led me to church on that particular day and so I listened.

The first law was to give your concerns to God. Tell him what you need (though he already knows!). And to be clear here, I don’t particularly like calling God a “he” but it makes it easier to reference “him” as such so pardon the pronoun reference! So anyway, by clarifying our needs to God, we also are clarifying them to ourselves. There’s a difference between “needs” and “wants” and God WILL provide the “needs”. You have to go after the “wants” (actively seek them to achieve them). So I sat there in my pew and silently told God…”I need some money to pay my bills, buy some groceries (something besides Ramen noodles would be nice) and put gas in my car! Oh, and I need clothes for the girls because they are growing out of everything I have (they were 3 and 4 at the time) and all three of my kids need shoes!” (I took them to church in flip flops and torn sneakers!)

When it came time for the “offering”, I stared long and hard at my checkbook…which was quite pitifully low in the funds department and payday still over a week away! The preacher continued his sermon while the offering plate was passed around. “The more you give,” he says, “the more will come back to you. But give for the RIGHT reasons. Give not because you hope to receive but give because you want to help others! God will provide.” So I took that leap of faith and wrote out a check for over half the balance of my checking account! I no sooner put that check in the plate and my heart was pounding with worry! What had I just done!? Please, God, keep those needs of mine in mind over the next week or so!

As it happened, I had an appointment with a credit counseling agency the very next day. They had approved me for their program and I was meeting with them to set up their financial plan for me. BUT, when reviewing my finance sheet, they started telling me what things to cut from my costs and church donations was one of them! “God,” they said, “will understand that he can’t get a cut right now.” I told the counselor (who meant well, but obviously was quite unenlightened!) that I couldn’t do that. He then told me that I had to follow all of their plan or not be in the program. I politely declined the program and walked out of his office (much to his disbelief!). My heart was pounding because I was placing all my trust in God and though I had doubts that ALL my needs would be met (we are a very “doubting” sort of people aren’t we?), the fact is I was taking actions that showed my willingness to believe that God would provide. So, it’s okay to DOUBT…just so long as you don’t let that stop your actions of faith.

So anyway. I go home and I pour over my checkbook and there’s no money. I start crying silently, feeling sorry for myself as usual and worried about the fact that I was worried (after all, wasn’t I supposed to be trusting God?). When my son comes in and sees what’s happening, he asks what’s wrong and I tell him I’m just sad and that there is nothing for him to worry about (he was 10 at the time). So my son runs across the street to a neighbor and he tells her that his mom is crying. Over comes my dear friend Sylvia to check out the situation. I tell her that I was hoping to find some money to buy a few groceries but it seems that I am in the hole (which meant that I had written a bad check to the church!!!).

So my dear friend Sylvia sits down with me and we pour over all my bank statements (I don’t throw anything away!) and we examine my account from the last time I KNEW for certain it was balanced (which was almost a year ago!!). Another lesson learned…ALWAYS balance your checkbook on a MONTHLY basis…if not more so! And what do you suppose we discover? I made two payments on my car the previous month and there was a subtraction error as well (to my favor!). I call the car dealership handling my car loan and they say that I did indeed make two payments so I can skip this month’s payment since I’d already paid it! (honestly, I don’t know HOW I did such a thing but I’m not going to question it!). Suddenly I went from a negative balance to just over $300. That was a windfall to me.

Over the next few weeks it seemed that money just kept coming to me. A gift from my parents (for Christmas…thank God for great parents!!), a large unexpected child support payment (I didn’t see much in the way of child support assistance and since he was way behind and came into a bit of money, the state sent some of what he owed to me!!), an overpayment on some other bill from YEARS before! (Honestly! The agency…can’t remember who now…was “reviewing” my account and noticed a mistake on their behalf which resulted in me getting a refund!). On and on it went! Friends and neighbors were suddenly offering me clothes for my kids (without my asking for them or even indicating that we were in need of such things!). My dear friend Sylvia got a “buy one get one free” deal on shoes and since she had three kids that needed shoes, she got the free ones for my kids! The church gave us a food basket to enjoy for Christmas and the military also gifted us with help for the holiday!! Help was coming from everywhere!! God does indeed provide…TENFOLD!!!!!

We ended up having a decent Christmas. The kids were happy and their happiness helped heal my cracked heart. Besides, all the positive energy was really lifting my spirits and I soon came to the realization that the ending of a bad marriage is actually a GOOD thing! “They” say that when a door closes another will open and that is so true. The end of one thing just makes way for the beginning of something else (something BETTER). This is why I love the number “13”. In numerology it is considered a number of rebirth, renewal, reincarnation and the like. Basically, the number 13 marks the end of something and the beginning of another! People focus on the “ending of something” part and so think of that awesome number as bad. But I focus on the “beginning of something” part and so look at it as a positive number!

My life has gone nowhere but up since that dark period of my life. I have the BEST husband ever now. He’s been and continues to be one of the best things to ever happen to us! Money has been plentiful. I’m not rich but my NEEDS are all met and that’s huge in keeping the weight of burden off my back! Looking back…as bad as it all got and as awful as it all was…I’d go through it all again…exactly that way in order to get where I am right now!

One other thing to keep in mind as we go through the Christmas season…angels are with each and every one of us! We are never alone and they are ready and willing to help in however we need! From providing parking spots to finding things to alleviating negative situations…angels wait for our request to help! The thing about angels is you have to ASK for their assistance. They can’t just step in and do their thing without our permission. So keep them in mind and they’ll return the favor ten-fold!

To keep the spirit flowing…do you have a story to share? Has God come through for you in times of need? The angels? Let us know!!!

Wishing you ALL positive energy, many blessings and joy through Thanksgiving and on through Christmas!!!! PEACE OUT!

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