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I had these amazing, easy-to-achieve (or so I thought!) goals which I was DETERMINED to make happen back in January (when we are all revved up with New Year Resolutions) and guess what? Yeah, I sort of lost my oomph and my motivation has fizzled to a mild simmer. Those goals (some of them anyway) now sit on the back burner of my mind (bummer that) though I am attempting to turn up the heat again (Go, Deb!). It’s not like I stopped caring and lost the HOPE to make those things happen (lose weight and have more contact with spirit for starters!) but, LIFE GOT IN THE WAY! Has that happened to you? You are plugging along, doing the necessary things to reach your goals and suddenly this happens and that happens and other things happen, and so on and so on! I have a large family and a great group of friends and when things go on with them…well, it affects me too. I care about their lives and so I become involved with their problems. In fact, sometimes I’m taking on their problems and trying to fix them myself! The thing is, this can’t be done! No matter how hard we try and how well intentioned our thoughts, we were not put here to solve the problems of others! We were born to figure out how to solve our own! And often, by doing so…we help others do so as well!! Not because we are doing it for them but because they learn by seeing our lessons in action. Or because we give them the steps we followed to achieve the success (though there are many stairways to success…there is not just ONE way to achieve a goal and this we must all keep in mind. It isn’t a “my way or fail” process!) The fact is, though, that the people close to us often learn by SEEING us put our learned lessons into action. At least SOME of them do. Others keep their blinders on and we can’t MAKE them see. Though we do try, don’t we?

The fact is this: We are all responsible for our OWN lives…our own decisions, our own actions…and experiencing the consequences occurring as a result of those decisions and actions! We can’t and shouldn’t live someone’s life for them! We can, though, be supportive and encouraging … without taking over. A fact I am still trying to learn. Also, have you noticed when something unfortunate happens…suddenly there’s a SERIES of unfortunate events? (uggh!!) One thing I eventually put into practice (after first panicking and negatively reacting) is calming myself down (something I have to consciously make happen). I have to TELL myself to stop fussing and worrying over it and when I do that, all the chaos calms down! Truly. I tell the Universe (God, the Infinite Intelligence…whatever you believe) what my wish is … my best outcome for the situation, and then I LET IT GO. Meaning I trust it will work out. But I don’t do this at first. No. At first I am like the majority of the world…I panic, I get worried, I fret and sputter and worry some more! Then I have a talk with myself.

“Deb, you’ve been through WORSE, much, much worse and how did it all work out? Fine. It all worked out just great. Why is that? Because you presented your problem to the universe and trusted God to bring it all to a positive end. And it did! Every    single    time. Besides, it isn’t as bad as all that!”

If any of you are like me and some others I know…we can over dramatize anything. We are great at building mountains out of mole hills! So, when I finally realize what I’m doing…I turn it back into a mole hill then ask the universe to send the mole away! Works like a charm. Until the next time. And then here I go again…passing through the process once more. One of these days I’m going to skip all the fretting and worrying and dramatizing that I put myself through and get right to the part where it all works out!

So, here it is the month of April and I weigh about TEN pounds MORE than I did in January! I haven’t connected much with spirit either. Though I have to say in my defense on that one…I feel connected to spirit on a daily basis! Every time I sit down to work on a book, in fact, I truly feel like I “plug in” to the spirit consciousness and take on their dictation. Honestly, I don’t know where the story flow comes from but without any sort of plotting, the stories develop and then end up connecting to each other in the most amazing way! It puts me in awe of the whole process. It truly does. Any of you do something like that? Do you suddenly get an idea or inspiration and you don’t know where it came from but suddenly it’s in your head and you are bringing it into being? And then when you are done…you are just so amazed by it?

When I started the Tess Schafer-Medium series, I only knew that I wanted to write a book series involving a gifted medium…one who wasn’t all that trained or sure about her ability…one who even QUESTIONED her beliefs and talent. I wanted to experience and learn things with her. And that I’m doing! When writing the Tess stories, I pull from my own experiences, my own beliefs and my own DISbeliefs, but I also just seem to pluck things out of the air (I love that expression because it’s actually quite accurate!). I explore the world of spirit through my characters and I hope my readers do as well. In fact, part of my hope is that my books will offer something of use to people curious about the paranormal world. I want others to see that although evil exists and we must take care…we can interact with those on the other side and do so without fear of inviting evil into our world.

With only that vague premise in mind, I started writing. I just sat down and began Tess’s story and now I’ve just completed book FIVE of the series (titled Ghost Trouble) and I’m very excited to get it published! I’m hoping the ebook will be ready by the first part of May (I’ll be sure to send out a celebratory post when that happens!). My fingers are crossed.  What amazes me about the stories is the fact that they all tie in to each other in some way. Now, this happened without my conscious intention. So, without plotting and planning, I ended up with a book series that would make one think that I had to plan and plot! The story flow just comes when I sit down to write. I sometimes have a vague idea of what I THINK might happen and then something completely surprising will occur and blow mind mind away. Yeah, I’m going to admit it…sometimes I am in awe of myself. But you know…we should all be that way. We are children of God and capable of the awe which comes from having such a lineage!

My goals at the beginning of the year haven’t changed. I still want to be better organized and I’m slowly but surely making that happen. You wouldn’t know it looking at my house right now but it’s a fact that things must become MORE unorganized as  you drag it all out into the open and begin the process of putting it all back…IN SOME ORDERLY, ORGANIZED fashion! I still want to lose weight but as I mentioned earlier, I ended up gaining a few more pounds rather than losing them! (sigh). No matter. Today is a new day and the goal is still there. I’ll do even smaller steps to make it happen (if the steps we have planned out end up being too much to follow…break it down some more!). I know that once we take positive action (no matter how minor) to reach a goal and continue to do so, eventually the steps get bigger and then we are running for the finish!

I came across an amazing book called “You Can Heal Yourself” by  Louise L. Hay and in it she talks about the fact that all physical problems/ailments are a reflection of spiritual/emotional issues. Through extensive study, she has found commonalities that has helped her develop an outline of physical ailments (or unwanted developments) and their related mental/emotional stigma. She has found that the most probable causes for weight problems to be as follows: fear (an emotion involved with ALL ailments/problems), the need for protection (we all want to feel SAFE), running away from feelings (we don’t want to face), insecurity and self-rejection (two biggies for many of us). Louise says weight problems can be solved by creating new thought patterns (we hear this all the time from New Age and self help gurus but you know…it’s TRUE!). We must tell ourselves that we are at peace with our feelings (too many of us get upset with ourselves for feeling bad, mad, discouraged or negative! Understand that this is a NORMAL human reaction and then let go of your discouragement for feeling that way. Acknowledge how you feel but don’t get down on yourself for feeling that way!). We must come to realize that we are SAFE where we are (in whatever circumstance) and that is so because we all create our own security (YES! We have the power to do that!!). We must come to love and approve of ourselves. And why shouldn’t we? Despite our lives and actions and decisions, we are souls of God and in the end…THAT is what matters!

Now, based on the premise of that book, I have to really explore my life in order to identify the probable causes for my weight problems and then apply the suggested new thought patterns to correct the issue. I can’t correct an issue that I don’t understand. I now realize that my weight is a reflection of the fact that I am not satisfied with my body (I think it stems all the way back to childhood when I would compare myself to someone I admired and find I didn’t compare well!! Not to my critical mind anyway). It’s a fact that I am overly critical of myself and always have been and so that affects my poor ole body and how it’s presents itself to the world. Our bodies, you know, are reflections of the images we see within our minds. ALL THINGS and how we view them are created from our own thoughts and perceptions! So anyway. I need to stop being so critical of myself and love this body of mine just as it is. As I come to accept and love myself AS I AM, my body will then conform to the image I am striving to obtain. Loving ourselves brings about the most amazing transformation!

Another thing that I have hopes to accomplish this year is to get my books out to all those who would like them! I know sometimes they land in the wrong hands and are not appreciated in the least…those people leave very biting reviews on Amazon to let me know as much! And just so you know…I do realize that not everyone is going to like my writing and I expect that, it’s the criticism for my characters’ BELIEFS that I find interesting. The thing is, it is not for those people that I write (I am, however, sorry they feel like they wasted their time and money!). The fact is…I write for myself because I LOVE to write and I love the stories that come through, and I write for those who get as much pleasure from the stories as I do! There are a lot of paranormal books on the market but many of them are about vampires and zombies and black magic and the like. The ghosts are usually really evil or overly friendly!  I write stories that I think are possible (though I suppose in another reality somewhere vampires and the like are possible!). My own experiences often find their way into my stories. The fact is, I am fascinated by the paranormal world…by our spiritual side of life…and so I just love a story that involves those elements.

Another thing I am trying to accomplish this year is getting organized. I’m slowly moving in that direction. I just feel so much better when I know where everything is and can look around and see that everything has a place. I truly believe that when our environment is in ORDER, then we are much more at peace and orderly as well. Chaos in any form is unsettling. Order is peaceful. So, I’m working on it.

Finally, I am trying to get a handle on my finances. I am tired of being in debt. My goal is to stop being a slave to indebtedness and working to PAY someone else!  My goal is to get to a place where my earnings are mostly mine to do with as I will. That means having the means to do more traveling! There are so many wonderful things in this amazing world that I want to see and experience and I can only do that if I have the FUNDS to do that! I know that keeping my eye on all these goals will ensure that I realize them! Setting goals is as good as telling the universe what you INTEND to have. My problem right now is that I am SLOW to manifest these things. If only I could figure out how to speed up the process. If I do figure it out, I’ll let you know.

So, anyway, I am now in the process of getting “Ghost Trouble” published and I’ve started going to Yoga classes (which I find very enjoyable and invigorating!). And as mentioned, I’m getting my home organized. Also, I am whittling down my debt a little at a time … enough so that I am actually SEEING some positive results!

How are you all doing with your goals? Do you have any advice to give those of us still striving to achieve ours? Have any of you read any of my stories? Do you find them helpful at all? I totally LOVE hearing from those of you who have read my books. Good or bad, I am just so curious as to your thoughts!

If you haven’t met your goals yet and are thinking about shelving them for good…don’t give up! Keep your FOCUS on what you want…give it to the universe to help make it happen…then go with it! One tiny little step at a time. You can achieve anything. You have within you the capability for all you can imagine!

Until next time blessings to all and peace out!


41ViDwUfFlL._AA160_One of my favorite book series is the Odd Thomas stories by Dean Koontz. Although these books are more in the horror/thriller category and not something I typically read (I prefer spooky/scary), I just fell in love with Odd. So much so that I named my strange little kitten Odd as well. The name totally fits him. So anyway, I’ve always thought they should make a movie on these books and it seems that one did get done! One movie made and probably the last (bummer, that).  I was recently contacted by another Odd Thomas fan, Spencer Blohm, who wanted to share with us what he knows about this interesting and disappointing development.

Spencer likes doing guest posts on other blogs so if you are interested in him doing one for you, leave a comment and let him know! I’m sure he’d be happy to contact you and discuss it. He is a freelance blogger/copywriter who generally specializes in entertainment, culture, music, fashion, and lifestyle topics. He lives and works in Chicago and you can follow him on Twitter under @bspencerblohm.

So, read on, Odd fans (and those who might BECOME Odd fans), and see what the fuss is all about!

The Battle Behind Odd Thomas

by Spencer Blohm

 

91XzqrcEIXL._SL1500_The new film Odd Thomas is based on the book series of the same name by bestselling author Dean Koontz, which has been discussed on this site before. What makes this film stand out from other Dean Koontz adaptations is the controversy and legal disputes surrounding its creation. Despite filming in 2011 and a predicted fall 2013 release, the film will likely never see U.S. theaters. Fighting between the producers and financial benefactors of the film led to the film being shelved for months, and only recently has the film become available solely through DirecTV (see Direct-Ticket.net for details). The lawsuit in question alleged that the film’s financiers failed to provide $35 million to help pay back production loans and marketing and distribution fees. As a result, the film received zero promotion and advertising; only a small amount of word of mouth hype via the internet was passed around.

Still, for those looking for an interesting watch, Odd Thomas should be considered despite the initial issues following its creation. What makes Odd Thomas an interesting film is its unique paranormal aspect: the film follows main character Odd as he struggles with his ability to communicate with the dead and see demonic ghostly figures known as Bordachs, who only appear when death, disaster, and suffering are imminent. Most of the film is spent detailing Odd’s investigation into why a large swarm of Bordachs would be following a regular customer of the restaurant Odd works in, a man he dubs, simply, “Fungus Bob.”

The film itself has more of a sci-fi quality to it, as opposed to a paranormal/horror feel that one might expect from such a plot. It’s an interesting yet expected approach taken by director Stephen Sommers, who gained fame by directing sci-fi/action films like The Mummy, Van Helsing, and G.I. Joe: The Rise of Cobra. Perhaps due to a lack of experience in the strictly paranormal film genre, the eerie quality of the book becomes a bit lost in the shuffle of the film. In addition to that, the deeply thought out characters and plotline of the novel appear slightly staggered on screen, and as a result never fully allow viewers to understand the complexities of the individual characters.

The star of the film, Anton Yelchin (best known for his role as the titular character in Charlie Bartlett), does emerge as a quirky, alternative dream boat for the younger generations and shows promise for future roles. Anton has obvious on screen charisma and agility within some of the rapid fire dialogue and plotlines, but gets shortchanged. The film clocks in at only 95 minutes, which is hardly enough time to fully understand any of the characters, especially the secondary characters. The editing also left a few holes in the plotline in addition to the character development issues, possibly a result of the post production problems that plagued the entire project.

All in all, the film shows promise for what could have been, but will likely never come to be. The Odd Thomas series has produced some of Koontz’s best-selling novels and boasts millions of fans worldwide who would undoubtedly embrace a film series chronicling the adventures of Odd. However, due to the post production issues and the VOD release of the film in the U.S. it’s unlikely that a sequel will ever see the light of day, let alone the entire series. If you are a fan of the book series or of Dean Koontz give the film a shot, but chances are this will be the first, and last, Odd Thomas movie to be made.

Thanks, Spencer, for sharing this with us! I was bumming that I don’t have Direct TV and then I discovered that you can now purchase the movie on Amazon here!

If you are curious to see the movie trailer, then click here and if you would like to check out all the Odd Thomas novels, you can find them all listed on Amazon if you click here.

Have any of you seen the film? If so, what are your thoughts on it? Please share! As for me, I’m definitely going to check it out and I’ll hold out hope that a miracle will happen for future movies to be made on this series!

Once again, I would like to express my thanks to Spencer Blohm for guesting on my blog. Until next time…many blessings to all and Peace Out!


Have you ever heard it said that if you “dream it” and “believe it” you can “achieve it”? What about statements like “follow your dreams” and “dream big” and blah, blah, blah? All meant to be great words of wisdom to be sure but how many people do you actually know who had all sorts of dreams but NOTHING came of them? How many people do you personally know who are LIVING THEIR DREAM? On this last I can bet this much…zero. Zilch. Nada. After all, once you do manage to achieve one of your dreams you immediately create more and the dream you had (the one achieved) no longer matters. The NEW dream has taken over your focus. It is a select few who can lay claim to “living the dream” and they can say that because it still matters to them.

???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Here’s the thing. Dreaming is all well and good but the problem with dreams is they are often so far in the distance (a far off future) that we often give up reaching for it. Not everyone of course, there’s always the exception, but I am not the exception. Now, I dreamed when I was a teenager of becoming an author. I did nothing about that dream until two years ago…THIRTY plus years out of my teens and I get serious about those dreams. (Sigh) But hey…I ACHIEVED it! Five books so far!! Yay!! And happy as I am about that…I already have new dreams to moon over.

The thing about dreams is the fact they are nothing more than fantasies unless you ACTIVELY do something to achieve them. We can imagine all sorts of grand things BUT if we just sit back and keep thinking about it, nothing…absolutely NOTHING…is going to come of them. I mean, the universe isn’t going to send someone to your door and say, “I heard you were dreaming about being an author? Well, let me make that happen for you!” Again, there could be an exception to this scenario but it didn’t happen to me and I’m willing to bet big that such a circumstance hasn’t happened to a majority of other people reading this blog either!

I’m reminded of the story about this man who wanted to win the lottery. He kept dreaming about it and dreaming about it and praying for it to happen. But time goes on and on and despite all his affirmations and believing and praying, he doesn’t win the lottery. He complains to his friend about it and this wise friend of his says, “Well, you have to first buy a lottery ticket before you can win the lottery.” Now, I know there are variations to this little story but this one is mine. So anyway…do you see the point of it? Dream achievement requires ACTIVE PARTICIPATION from the dreamer!

One thing we must accept when it comes to making dreams a reality is the fact that we DESERVE the obtaining of them. Each and every single one of us (with the exception of true scumbags and evil doers of course!) deserve to live the life we “dream” about. But here’s another thing…that dream will be nothing more than a FANTASY, a dream in your head, until you actually DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Making dreams come true requires EFFORT. You have to WORK for it. We are of an age where so many people don’t want to EARN a damn thing. They want it given to them with little effort (if any) on their part!

Camping and Flowers 003So, I was thinking about this and thinking about this and I decided that I needed to stop “dreaming” and start DOING. You know that NIKE slogan “Just do it”? Well, that should be our “obtaining of dreams” logo too! So when I say I’m “done with dreaming”, what I mean is I’ll keep fantasizing about having my book sales go crazy like they did with that “50 Shades of Gray” series but the fact is this…that is NOT GOING TO HAPPEN without any effort on my part! I need to PARTICIPATE in the realization of my dreams. I must DO SOMETHING or those dreams are going to stay right where they are…in my head enjoyed by only my thoughts.

I was reading somewhere that people start out the new year with all these well meaning, well intentioned resolutions and by February, they are done. Why is this do you think? Because we stop caring? Because it suddenly doesn’t matter? NO! Because the fact is, most of us have set ourselves up for failure. At the beginning of the year when we make these resolutions we somehow rally the troops of enthusiasm and zip out of the gate at a full gallop but when results don’t happen INSTANTLY, we become discouraged. And then more discouraged. And then our enthusiasm wanes. Just how long does it take to lose a measly 25 pounds anyway!!? Sheesh. Why the heck haven’t those bills disappeared yet and why in this crazy world is my house MORE unorganized than it was before I started out organizing it!? We are our own worst enemy. I’m sure you’ve heard that a time or two. But it’s true. We set ourselves up for failure because of those dang dreams. We want THAT and we want it NOW! (makes me think of that song by Queen … I want it all and I want it now! )

So, I’m going to stop DREAMING and start DOING. I’m going to take my life into my own capable hands (we are all capable of accomplishing whatever we put our minds to by the way!) and I’m going to set goals. Small ATTAINABLE ones that I can actually achieve by the end of the day! As the days pile up, all those achievements are going to lead to…yup, you guessed it…my DREAMS!

Now, I have three dreams right now. Okay four. Well, maybe five.  One is to get organized. I’m tired of the mess around me and not finding stuff. Two, I want to rid my body of all this extra weight it put on during the past year. Three, I want to pay down my mountain of bills. Four, I want to connect more with spirit!  And five, I want to get on the New York Times Best Seller List! Yes, I know, that last is a doozie but let me tell you, losing 25 pounds isn’t easy either! Nor is getting organized or paying off bills for that matter. As for connecting with spirit, well that one is actually pretty easy, I just need to set more time aside to do it!

Camping and Flowers 042So, day by day I am going to do things that will lead toward those dreams. For instance, I had a pile of receipts and bills and statements mounting at an alarming rate on my desk. One goal was to tackle them. DID IT! Goal achieved. Step one toward that dream of getting organized is done! Another goal was to cut out white sugar and flour from my diet. DID IT! Goal achieved. Step one toward losing those 25 pounds has been taken! Now granted, on that sugar and flour thing…that’s a DAILY…sometimes HOURLY achievement but each hour that goes by without the consumption of either is an achievement. Getting my blog updated regularly is something that goes along with my writing dream! My blog helps me to focus and exercise my writing skills…which is something I must do in order to get BETTER. The old adage “use it or lose it” totally applies here. Writing more books is another thing I need to do if I want to make that “best seller” dream of mine. So now my daily goal is to write, even if all I manage is a page or two or maybe even just a few paragraphs. Regardless how much I write, I MUST WRITE.

So, you see what I am doing? I am creating on a DAILY basis, small ATTAINABLE goals that all are tiny little ATTAINABLE steps towards those DREAMS of mine! And if on any given day I don’t reach a goal, no biggie. I just start again the next day…or RIGHT THEN for that matter. I haven’t failed in reaching my dream…I just missed a step. Steps are EASY PEASY to make up!!

Seven days ago I decided to eat healthier choices to shed some of this poundage and I’ve shed 3.6 pounds. It’s not a lot but guess what…seven days from now, if I keep that up, I’ll have lost over seven pounds! By the end of the month I could lose 15 pounds or so! Now, it’s not my DREAM to lose 15 pounds in a month. I know better than to set that goal. I’d be setting myself up for failure I’m sure. So I’m keeping to the DAILY goal of cutting out sugar and flour and making healthier choices. The weight will come off eventually. A day will come and I’ll be 25 pounds lighter and I’ll be jumping for joy for having achieved a dream! So you see? Though my dream is to lose 25 pounds, I am not focused on that. I am focused on getting through the day…hell, getting through each HOUR of the day…without consuming sugar and/or flour products. These goals I’m making are ATTAINABLE. I am not going to sabotage my dreams by setting unrealistic, hard-to-achieve-in-the-best-of-circumstances kinds of goals. I’m not reaching for “the dream”… I’m SUCCESSFULLY creeping my way toward it! Success breeds enthusiasm and enthusiasm breeds motivation and that, of course, it what is going to help me keep focus and make the little goals happen. By February, this little engine that could will be chugging right along…at a snail’s pace maybe, when comparing it to dream achievement, but rather speedily along when comparing it to goal achievement!

smart-goals1So, yeah I’m no longer focusing on “the dream”. I have broken it down into teeny, tiny baby steps of goal attainability. Dreams are the stuff of reality but it’s the WORK, the small goals we achieve, that bring reality into being. And you know what? I CAN DO THIS! So can you. Day by day, hour by hour, work toward your dreams but FOCUS on what you are doing RIGHT NOW. By living in the moment…dealing with NOW, all the little steps you take will lead you to those dreams. Just see if they don’t. I challenge you!

Okay, I’m done for now. You can be sure I’ll keep you posted on my progress. And I would love to hear your goals and achievements too! We’ll keep each other motivated. And to keep ME motivated…I look at one dream realization that took me over 30 years to accomplish…my books! 20140106_132827


20140106_112216So we are nearly a week into 2014 and I’ve pretty much munched my way through all the baking goodies, the candy and the too-rich-to-be-consumed-all-year-long drinks. I’ve packed on more poundage this past year than ever before but that’s because I’ve actually kicked my writing career into overdrive…meaning I did a LOT of sitting! Although I’ve tried doing tummy crunches while sitting at the computer, I get so involved in what I’m doing that I eventually forget about that and then when I remember again, the motivation is gone. I like to sit and munch while I work on my stories. Now that I’m determined…absolutely DETERMINED to stick with a more healthy lifestyle, I don’t know how I’m going to fill that void! Even so…I’m going to do this. I have never weighed this much in my life. Not even with my third pregnancy (when I gained the most) and was ready to pop did I weigh this much. My clothes are tight and I’m tired all the time. I’ve been wearing a lot of “gym clothes” without the benefits of their intended usage!

Yes, I have fallen into a very bad rut. And now that I’ve managed to devour all the holiday goodies I couldn’t bring myself to throw away, it is time to get serious on this issue of weight LOSS. Also, I want to work more on my interactions with spirit! I’ve been so busy writing (which to me is an interaction with spirit but on a different level) that I haven’t given time to anything else! Including my poor house. I figure part of my exercise regimen will be house cleaning. Of the strenuous kind. Not the halfhearted stuff I’ve done here and there up to this point. Those rugs are getting SCRUBBED. Those floors are going to SHINE. And all that dust build up is not going to be ignored any longer!

So, it’s out with the old way of life…lots of sitting, lots of eating, lots of turning a blind eye to my house, lots of procrastination…and on with the new: exercise, less eating and more healthy choices when I do, housework and spirit contact. The last part is kind of an odd ball isn’t it? But I do want more connection with my angels, my spirit guide, the universe (God), and whoever else wants to come through (of the positive and good kind of course!).

So, to make myself stick to this, I have stated my intentions to all of you. Now, since I don’t want to come across as a failure, I better stand behind my convictions and do it. From time to time I will check in with ya’ll and let you know my progress. From my weight struggles, to my housework to my spirit contact…I’ll share it all. And if any of you want to join in and share with me your own resolutions and how you are doing…PLEASE do so! WE CAN DO THIS! Right? All it takes is a plan and determination to follow through. Setting goals…that is KEY. Just doing something isn’t enough. We are humans and we humans need goals. We need to strive towards the completion of something. Otherwise, we are aimless. We lose focus when we are aimless. And then we lose our determination. Depressed, we fall back into the same rut we were hoping to get out of. That is not going to happen this time. No sirree.

So, I rounded up all the fattening stuff in my house and I put it away. My sensibility won’t let me throw perfectly good stuff away so I am putting it out of reach. To the shed, in sealed containers it goes. After my morning tea (no coffee for me because I can’t drink unsweetened coffee!), I exercise for at LEAST a half hour then do something around the house. After appointed tasks are complete, I’ll have a light snack. Some computer work and writing then lunch. Some stretches (important to do when working on the computer for hours and hours!) and a little more housework then back to writing (I’ve two books I am in the process of completing!). Sometime in the afternoon, when I have some peace and quiet (meaning no grandkids running under feet!)…I will do something with spirit. Meditation for starters! I’ll record my results then start preparations for a healthy dinner! After that, a little relaxation should be well earned. My husband likes to exercise in the evening so I’ll toss in an hour of that with him then head back to writing for a bit. That is going to be the gist of my day. Once I achieve my goal of 25 pounds LOST, I will adjust things just a little. Maybe add coffee back into my life…but with a lot less sugar! I’m hoping, though, that I develop new habits that are better for my body and my mind. Habits, after all, are much easier to follow!

So on day six of the year 2014, I begin my new way of life. I can feel the spirit world all aflutter because they know how much they are going to be part of this plan. Things should get mighty interesting around here. That’s all I’ve got to say about it.

What say you? Any New Year Resolutions you want to share with us? Want to join me in this quest to “make it happen”? State your plan and then check in with us periodically to let us know how you are doing. Let’s bolster each other up. And if you are hoping to make contact with spirit…I can’t wait to learn how you went about it and how it all went down. Honestly, I’ll share with you everything I do in that respect. I’ll try an experiment and then let you know the results. Maybe you will try it too and share yours. This could get really, really interesting.

So, until I check in with you…say a few days from now (no daily blogging for me, I already know I won’t be able to maintain that sort of schedule. If anything, I MUST be realistic with my goals), I wish you all luck with whatever you have going on that you WANT going on!

Peace be with you. Happy New Year!! 2014 is going to be a great one for us. I just know it.


Spiritualist Church AngelSince starting this blog, which mostly features posts geared toward the strange and unusual world of the paranormal…I’ve heard from people all over the world. They have shared with me and my blog readers stories of their struggles, concerns, worries and the like. I do believe that when we are dealing with negative stuff…we focus on the negative stuff (because, after all, that is what is going on and of course we are going to focus on it!) and then MORE negative crap happens (where your focus goes, so your energy flows!)

Same with ghost/spirit trouble. You have a problem with one ghost and suddenly they are everywhere! You have family problems and suddenly everyone is upset! You have money trouble and suddenly you are burdened with financial woes! One thing breaks down and suddenly everything is going kaput on you! On and on it goes.

Never are the ups and down of life so apparent as they seem to be than during the Christmas season. It’s a great holiday, representing something quite fantastic, but it’s also a depressing time of year for many. People start thinking about loved ones lost to spirit and miss their physical presence, those who can’t afford gifts for their loved ones feel the crush of disappointment over it pressing down on them, those that go through life on their own feel even more lonely when they see all the “togetherness” going on around them. It’s a great time of year and it’s the worst time of year. BUT, it doesn’t have to be one or the other. No.

To get the Christmas “spirit” flowing…you start spreading some of it! The more you spread, the more comes back to you! It does work like that (and as easily as that!) but it’s hard to get going if things are that bad. When things are going rough for me, I think back to one of the darkest periods of my life (nothing ever has gotten as bad as that ever since! Besides, the story that follows explains why I keep thinking about it).

I was going through a terrible marital breakup and for awhile I thought there was NOTHING good going on in my life. Other than the blessing of my three kids, life totally sucked. My job was a challenge because I’d switched to an area that resented my presence (I was in the military at the time and we were combining two different career fields into one…of course both career fields resented the other! I was moved to the new section and needless to say, they didn’t think I belonged there!), my boss (supervisor) was an ass…no other way to put it! He had ZERO sympathy for the heartbreaking anguish going on in my personal life. His cold responses to my emotional pain made things that much worse! My husband at the time thought a girl half his age was THE THING and though I managed to get him away from her (while offering her condolences by the way…I thought he was as deceitful to her as he was to me!), he soon found another to take her place! My kids were upset to be losing their daddy and so I had their tears to deal with as well as my own!  My finances were a MESS and … as I said, my heart broke. With Christmas rapidly approaching, things just seemed to be getting worse. How was I going to buy gifts for the kids? How was I supposed to show any happiness when I felt NONE? How was I supposed to FEED the kids, let alone find them Christmas presents?

Well, despite all my worry and misery, I prayed. And God heard (as ALWAYS!). Honestly, folks, there is POWER in PRAYER! Although I hadn’t been to church in many years, a couple that lived nearby and were good friends (he and I worked together in the military), convinced me to go to church with them. Although I’d been resisting their invitations for quite some time, one Sunday morning I was tired of moping around the house feeling sorry for myself so I called and said, “Okay. I’ll go to church with you!” Now what do you suppose the church was featuring on that day…my first time going? A six-part series on the LAW OF MONEY. I must reiterate here that my financial situation was quite bad! My kids and I were eating a lot of Ramen noodles, mac and cheese and fluffernutter sandwiches. I kept getting overdraft charges in my checking account and I barely had enough gas in the car to get to work…let alone make a trip to church! But I dressed up the kids and off to church we went. The kids thought it was a treat to get out of the house and I have to admit…I felt the same.

So, the preacher announces that he is going to be doing a six part series on the Law of Money and that it was important none of us missed the next five weeks. Interestingly enough, the church was undergoing some major renovations at the time so it might have been what prompted the “money” series but I don’t care. I felt it was God talking to me…that it was God that led me to church on that particular day and so I listened.

The first law was to give your concerns to God. Tell him what you need (though he already knows!). And to be clear here, I don’t particularly like calling God a “he” but it makes it easier to reference “him” as such so pardon the pronoun reference! So anyway, by clarifying our needs to God, we also are clarifying them to ourselves. There’s a difference between “needs” and “wants” and God WILL provide the “needs”. You have to go after the “wants” (actively seek them to achieve them). So I sat there in my pew and silently told God…”I need some money to pay my bills, buy some groceries (something besides Ramen noodles would be nice) and put gas in my car! Oh, and I need clothes for the girls because they are growing out of everything I have (they were 3 and 4 at the time) and all three of my kids need shoes!” (I took them to church in flip flops and torn sneakers!)

When it came time for the “offering”, I stared long and hard at my checkbook…which was quite pitifully low in the funds department and payday still over a week away! The preacher continued his sermon while the offering plate was passed around. “The more you give,” he says, “the more will come back to you. But give for the RIGHT reasons. Give not because you hope to receive but give because you want to help others! God will provide.” So I took that leap of faith and wrote out a check for over half the balance of my checking account! I no sooner put that check in the plate and my heart was pounding with worry! What had I just done!? Please, God, keep those needs of mine in mind over the next week or so!

As it happened, I had an appointment with a credit counseling agency the very next day. They had approved me for their program and I was meeting with them to set up their financial plan for me. BUT, when reviewing my finance sheet, they started telling me what things to cut from my costs and church donations was one of them! “God,” they said, “will understand that he can’t get a cut right now.” I told the counselor (who meant well, but obviously was quite unenlightened!) that I couldn’t do that. He then told me that I had to follow all of their plan or not be in the program. I politely declined the program and walked out of his office (much to his disbelief!). My heart was pounding because I was placing all my trust in God and though I had doubts that ALL my needs would be met (we are a very “doubting” sort of people aren’t we?), the fact is I was taking actions that showed my willingness to believe that God would provide. So, it’s okay to DOUBT…just so long as you don’t let that stop your actions of faith.

So anyway. I go home and I pour over my checkbook and there’s no money. I start crying silently, feeling sorry for myself as usual and worried about the fact that I was worried (after all, wasn’t I supposed to be trusting God?). When my son comes in and sees what’s happening, he asks what’s wrong and I tell him I’m just sad and that there is nothing for him to worry about (he was 10 at the time). So my son runs across the street to a neighbor and he tells her that his mom is crying. Over comes my dear friend Sylvia to check out the situation. I tell her that I was hoping to find some money to buy a few groceries but it seems that I am in the hole (which meant that I had written a bad check to the church!!!).

So my dear friend Sylvia sits down with me and we pour over all my bank statements (I don’t throw anything away!) and we examine my account from the last time I KNEW for certain it was balanced (which was almost a year ago!!). Another lesson learned…ALWAYS balance your checkbook on a MONTHLY basis…if not more so! And what do you suppose we discover? I made two payments on my car the previous month and there was a subtraction error as well (to my favor!). I call the car dealership handling my car loan and they say that I did indeed make two payments so I can skip this month’s payment since I’d already paid it! (honestly, I don’t know HOW I did such a thing but I’m not going to question it!). Suddenly I went from a negative balance to just over $300. That was a windfall to me.

Over the next few weeks it seemed that money just kept coming to me. A gift from my parents (for Christmas…thank God for great parents!!), a large unexpected child support payment (I didn’t see much in the way of child support assistance and since he was way behind and came into a bit of money, the state sent some of what he owed to me!!), an overpayment on some other bill from YEARS before! (Honestly! The agency…can’t remember who now…was “reviewing” my account and noticed a mistake on their behalf which resulted in me getting a refund!). On and on it went! Friends and neighbors were suddenly offering me clothes for my kids (without my asking for them or even indicating that we were in need of such things!). My dear friend Sylvia got a “buy one get one free” deal on shoes and since she had three kids that needed shoes, she got the free ones for my kids! The church gave us a food basket to enjoy for Christmas and the military also gifted us with help for the holiday!! Help was coming from everywhere!! God does indeed provide…TENFOLD!!!!!

We ended up having a decent Christmas. The kids were happy and their happiness helped heal my cracked heart. Besides, all the positive energy was really lifting my spirits and I soon came to the realization that the ending of a bad marriage is actually a GOOD thing! “They” say that when a door closes another will open and that is so true. The end of one thing just makes way for the beginning of something else (something BETTER). This is why I love the number “13″. In numerology it is considered a number of rebirth, renewal, reincarnation and the like. Basically, the number 13 marks the end of something and the beginning of another! People focus on the “ending of something” part and so think of that awesome number as bad. But I focus on the “beginning of something” part and so look at it as a positive number!

My life has gone nowhere but up since that dark period of my life. I have the BEST husband ever now. He’s been and continues to be one of the best things to ever happen to us! Money has been plentiful. I’m not rich but my NEEDS are all met and that’s huge in keeping the weight of burden off my back! Looking back…as bad as it all got and as awful as it all was…I’d go through it all again…exactly that way in order to get where I am right now!

One other thing to keep in mind as we go through the Christmas season…angels are with each and every one of us! We are never alone and they are ready and willing to help in however we need! From providing parking spots to finding things to alleviating negative situations…angels wait for our request to help! The thing about angels is you have to ASK for their assistance. They can’t just step in and do their thing without our permission. So keep them in mind and they’ll return the favor ten-fold!

To keep the spirit flowing…do you have a story to share? Has God come through for you in times of need? The angels? Let us know!!!

Wishing you ALL positive energy, many blessings and joy through Thanksgiving and on through Christmas!!!! PEACE OUT!


I’ve written a lot of posts (88 so far!) covering a variety of subjects involving paranormal subject matter and there’s some really good ones in among the mix that would help a lot of the people now writing in to me about their ghostly problems, concerns and fears. Although I worry that people will find my answers very repetitious, the answers to similar problems SHOULD be the same! Was I to answer similar questions with a different answer, then I would not be consistent with my beliefs or my advice!

I know it’s a lot of work to go prowling through older posts…time is precious and few of us have enough of it! So, I took the time to go through them for you, putting together a “one stop shop” on posts that might be of the most beneficial to the questions I keep receiving! And as to that…I LOVE hearing from you! I do. If I can help in any way…then I will do so. And if you can provide some insight, better yet!

When I answer the questions I receive on my blog, I don’t know what I’m going to say until I start typing it. I write what “spirit” moves me to write. This ensures the best possible answer I can give. After all, it’s coming from spirit so how can it be wrong? Now I’m not saying there are no other right answers, but I can only give the one that comes to me. Understand this: ANYTHING we are moved to create…be it a piece of art, a book, a poem, an answer to a question or whatever…ALL of it is inspiration from spirit!

In fact, now that I’ve mentioned it, let me take the time right now to thank the angels and spirits who help me out with that: THANK YOU, thank you!! I am honored and grateful for your help, love and support!”

Okay. Now back to YOU! The following is a roundup of posts you might find helpful!

Are you having ghostly problems and looking for ideas on vanquishing them? Here ya go:

“Encountering Ghosts and Vanquishing Them!”, “There’s a ghost in my house! Now what?”, and the following gives some tips on FINDING them too: “Ghost Hunting 101″

For those looking for an idea on how to communicate with spirits: “Now is the Time for Talking to Ghosts”“Eight Ways to Contact the Dead”, “Want to meet a ghost?”, “Inspirational Writing: How and Why”,(inspirational writing is also known as “automatic writing”), “5 Steps to Spirit Contact”, and “The Care and Handling of Spirit Contact”

How can you tell if a ghost is near? Well this post might help, it’s one of my most popular and has prompted a lot of comments: “12 Signs a Ghost is Near”

The above posts contain some of my best advice and most inspired writing!

And now I’d like to take some time to speak a word (or two!) about my books (for those who like to read!). My stories are fictional and have all been inspired in a “flash” of inspiration. The story ideas came to me quite suddenly and I went into a mad scramble to get them down in writing. I don’t plan them out (except Rosemary’s Ghosts. Although it came to me in a flash of sudden inspiration, the whole story came to me at once. So, I pretty much know the story before I even started writing it!). My Tess Schafer-Medium series (Be Still, My Love, Hidden Voices, Vanquishing Ghosts and the book I just mentioned, Rosemary’s Ghosts) is centered around…well, Tess Schafer, a 25-year-old medium. Her beliefs and the situations she encounters often reflect my own beliefs and my own encounters! Though works of fiction, they all contain information that involves the spirit world and how to interact/deal with them! My paranormal thriller, No Matter What is centered around reincarnation. It is a concept I believe in quite firmly. Especially after what I went through with my son. Here’s the link to a post in which I wrote about it “Reincarnation: Fact or Fiction”. I love all my stories and I thank spirit for the inspiration to write them but “No Matter What” is the one that is most special to me. It’s received some harsh reviews but it would…it’s quite controversial the ideas brought up in the story!

Speaking of reviews (left on Amazon), people have complained about my mention of God. How, I wonder, does one write about the paranormal and NOT bring up the subject of God? Pure horror books certainly. My stories are spooky and have scary elements to them but they are not HORRIFYING. Well, not for most of us. A few of the faint-at-heart have admitted to being scared while reading them!  So anyway, yes, my books mention God. Most of my characters (as well as me!) believes in God…a higher power, an infinite intelligence. Someone even suggested that I “leave God out of it” because he had no place in horror books!  Personally, I think that’s what going wrong in the world today…people are trying to “leave God out of it”!!!! Bad idea. Bad, bad idea!

I write the books that I write because there really isn’t any on the market like them. I’m proud to say that. I write the kinds of stories that someone like me would like to read. Because…well, I have to like what I’m writing or I’m not going to write it and it has to hold my interest or I’m not going to FINISH writing it! My interest is in the paranormal and so the stories I write are centered around that premise. Also, I’m not going to take God out of my books. So, if you don’t like the mention of beliefs about God, you might not want to read my stories! Or my blog for that matter!

If any of you have read any of my books…I ask you, “What did you think of them? Did I go overboard with the mention of God?”

Here’s the link to my author page on Amazon: Deborah J. Hughes Author Page. You can find a list of all my books there (or click on the book cover below!). I’d be happy and honored if you’d check them out! By the way, all but the cover for Be Still, My Love were created by the awesome Anya Kelley! I highly recommend her if you are an author looking for an affordable, talented cover artist! Be Still’s cover was created by the talented Jeff Bennington! He writes books in the paranormal genre too!! Click on his name and check him out!

Okay, that’s it for now! Sending blessings and positive vibrations out to all!!

64033_327215633993497_2023270865_n         Hidden Voices (1562x2500)Vanquishing Ghosts (Amazon)Rosemary's Ghosts (angel) 10-19-13No Matter What (9-17-12)      


2012-10-26 20.43.06Come October, the general focus seems to sway toward all things spooky! Halloween is the last day of the month, yet it’s advertised from day one and sometimes before October even arrives! Although this is most often a time for terrifying movies, television shows and horror books, it doesn’t have to be all “horror, terror and gore, oh my!”

The fact is, Halloween evolved from ancient traditions concerning the after life! It’s supposed to be the time of year when the veil between the living and the dead is at its thinnest. Fortune Telling, Divination and Spirit Contact are all more easily done during this very interesting time of year. So, it’s understandable, given that, how the focus has evolved over time to what it is today.

Honestly, I am no different. I worked like crazy to get Rosemary’s Ghosts ready for release this month! But truly, it’s the perfect book for Halloween. Even if I have to say so myself. The thing is…my character Tess Schafer, a very gifted medium, understands the relevance of Halloween and that comes through in the story. Besides that, I love sharing what I’ve learned about the paranormal through story-telling. For instance…Tess and Rosemary (a poor, sweet lady being terrorized by ghosts!) have a session of table tipping!

Have you ever done any table tipping? Do you know what it is? It isn’t anything like “cow tipping” (which I’ve never done by the way!), if that’s what came to mind! Most people have heard of the Ouija board I’m sure. The thing about the Ouija is that is acts as a portal to the spirit world. Which is great for those wanting to communicate with spirit, BUT it can bring through all manner of entities. You have to operate it with responsibility and most people who “play” with this so-called “game” don’t understand that! Whenever you seek to interact with “spirit” (the other side), you should know what you are doing and maintain control of the situation. Otherwise, well…who knows what you’ll inadvertently bring through! There are bad, evil entities lurking “over there” just looking for an opportunity to lurk around HERE! But I digress…I want to talk about table tipping.

Unlike the Ouija board, tables do not act as portals to spirit. They are simply a “tool” if you will, for talking to spirit. So, table tipping is much safer. One word of caution though…you can still bring through negative entities if you open it up to “whoever wants to come through and talk…please do!” Always make it clear that you want to  talk to GOOD, LOVING, POSITIVE spirits. If you get a bad vibe, bad messages and bad behavior…END the session.  I’ve had strong “spirited” folks come through but nothing bad.

2013-10-26 05.34.58table tipping tableTable tipping is one of those activities perfect for Halloween time! Just get yourself a small table…round is best but a square one will do (I’ve used a card table with no problem). The legs should not be flush with the edges of the table. They CAN be flush, it will still work, but it’s EASIER for spirit energy to tip a table when the legs are not flush with the edges of the table. For people who haven’t done this before, are a little nervous about it and have skeptics in their midst, the legs NOT being flush will be much easier for the spirits to operate. Make it clear to everyone who is participating in the table-tipping session that you will only welcome good, loving, honest and positive spirits! It’s even best if you request certain ones…departed family members, friends or the like. I like to say a prayer at the beginning of each session…prayer promotes positive energy and keeps the negative vibes away. Once you are ready, gather around the table and lightly rest your hands flat upon it. Don’t push down and don’t hover your hands above it. I see some people in table-tipping sessions whose hands slide across the table as it moves…if the hands are sliding across the table then you are not resting your hands upon it! (to the left are some examples of tables…I’ve used both of these. The one on the right works great…my mother made it for me!! Cool huh?)

I’m no expert about spirit stuff, but I have my own thoughts about how I think things work and it’s my belief that those in spirit use our personal energy field to make the table move. Since we are here operating within a physical world, our energy is strong (it has to be in order for us to exist here!) and interacts with things of this world quite easily. Spirit, on the other hand, operates within the spirit world and so their energy is different. All energy has movement (vibration) and spirit energy is moving (vibrating) at an incredible rate…much, much faster than the energy that makes up our physical world. That’s why it’s hard to see them (they are moving too fast…think of a fan blade on high speed…can you see it? No!) But it’s not impossible. And that’s a different story.

So anyway, by placing your hands flat on the table, resting them there gently, your personal energy becomes connected to the table’s energy and the spirit coming through can easily manipulate it through you. When the table starts moving, you’ll “feel” a different sort of energy  and know something is going on! The table will move in such a way that you’ll think someone else at the table is doing it. The good thing about this is that you’ll KNOW for sure it wasn’t you doing it! If everyone at the table is being honest, then rest assured, they aren’t causing the table to move…spirit is doing the work! For some reason, whenever I’m involved in a table-tipping session, I laugh a lot. It’s all good energy and good, positive energy is uplifting, so laughter is fine. In fact, laughter raises your personal energy to a higher degree (increases your vibrational speed) and table-tipping becomes even easier! Singing helps to get the energy going strong as well.

Once the table starts moving…it will shake, shimmy and tip…then take charge of it. State your intentions…whether you want someone specific or not…and make it clear, again, that you will allow only positive spirit energy to come through. Then you set the “rules” for engagement. I do it this way: “We will ask you questions and we want you to tip the table once for yes responses and tip the table twice for no responses.” Now, you can change that around if you want but that’s how I do it. If you want to receive messages then you instruct the spirit to tip the table for each letter of the alphabet, stopping on the letter they want. It’s time consuming to get messages because you have to tip the table for each letter of every word in the message. Sometimes the spirits get so active and impatient that the table tips so fast it becomes confusing what letter they are trying to give!

Another thing the table will often do is tip toward someone operating it and rest against them. Gentle efforts to push the table’s legs back down to the floor will meet resistance. I call these moments “hugs”. It’s quite common for a loved one who has come through to give “hugs” and it’s really quite an emotional moment. Honestly, you can “feel” their energy. Sometimes the table will even “walk” across the floor … often heading towards someone not operating the table (they are either trying to let that person know they want to talk to them…or they might be wanting to give a hug!). The thing to remember is to not resist the table’s movements and not to help it either!

Most often the case will be that while a table is tipping out a message, the operators will get a strong feel for what the word is…even if only one letter has been completed. This is because the spirit is actually mingling with our energy and their messages will filter right into our thoughts. This is basically how a medium works…they allow spirits to come right on into their thoughts. The thing about those in spirit is they don’t really use WORDS once they cross over. Words are too limiting (and this eliminates all language barriers as well!). They communicate through feelings and so that’s why it’s hard sometimes to understand a message coming through. They are trying to convey a feeling to you and you are trying to put it into specific words.  This is also why symbols are often used (for medium or psychic work, and especially in dreams!). But you don’t have to worry about trying to interpret symbols or anything when you are table-tipping.

It’s all good fun, really! There SHOULD be lots of laughter and enjoyment. Interaction with spirit should be a POSITIVE experience.

Rosemary's Ghosts (angel) 10-19-13I wrote this post in celebration of the release of my book “Rosemary’s Ghosts” and focused it on table-tipping because my characters have a pretty cool table-tipping session in the story!

So, have any of you tried it? Are you going to? Tell us about it!!

Until next time, many blessings to all of you and Peace Out!

Oh, and HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!


The ConjuringI love ghost stories and spooky movies so of course I had to go see The Conjuring. I read the book House of Darkness House of Light by Andrea Perron and though I wasn’t crazy over the writing style, I did enjoy the basic story and by this I mean the parts that actually involved the ghostly encounters. I thought there was a lot of stuff added into the book that didn’t need to be there…needless fluff…so I ended up skimming through a lot of it. But that is just the writer in me being overly critical I think. Then again, we all do it…criticize and skim or enjoy and savor! Since I am not into the literary, flowery sort of writing that Andrea used, I did not read volume two of this book series.

So anyway. The book “House of Darkness House of Light” was written by Andrea, one of the children of the family depicted in the movie, and it told a vastly different story than the one Hollywood presented (which was actually based on the Warren’s accounting of the haunting and not Andrea’s. The Warrens, by the way, were paranormal investigators and pretty big in their day!). I know Hollywood has to go over-the-top to hit it big in the box office, but it still disappoints me when they take the “nasty demon possesses body and goes on a killing spree” route. For me, the demon possession stuff ruined the movie though many others thought it added quite the thrill. My favorite parts were the beginning of the film. Although (here’s the critic in me again!) I thought it was rather slow at times and wished it would just get going already. Still, the subtle stuff that happens in real hauntings and then becomes more than subtle, that’s the stuff that grabs my attention and makes my imagination go haywire.

I don’t want to ruin the movie for anyone who hasn’t seen it, but since I’ve already mentioned the fact that a demon possession was involved, I just want to say that Andrea does not make her poor mother out to be as bad as all that in her book. Certainly she had problems and was quite influenced by the negative entity, but she did not try to kill her children. And really, if demons could do that sort of thing, don’t you think we’d hear about it? Have you ever heard of a demon taking over someone’s body and killing people anywhere but in the movies? Really, I want to know. Have you?

The problem with movies like “The Conjuring” is that it gives the paranormal world such a bad rap. Seriously, most of the spirits that make their way back into our realm of existence are not evil doers out to possess bodies. Many of them are just looking to make contact with loved ones they left behind. They want to reassure their grieving family and friends that they are in fact, quite fine. Better than fine. Awesome really! They want to offer comfort and hope and share the good news that the whole death thing is nothing to mourn over. I do have to add here, though, that there are some spirits who harbor negative feelings and though they can certainly INFLUENCE those they come near, to actually take possession of someone is not something they are looking to do. It does happen, however, on the rare occasion. Case histories exist concerning exorcisms that have really happened. But as I said, they are RARE and I think there are special circumstances about those cases.

I get a lot of comments on this blog…especially my post “12 Signs a Ghost is Near”… and I find that movies like “The Conjuring” concern many people that something like that could happen to them! After all, the movie states that it is based on a TRUE story! Key word here is “BASED”, meaning Hollywood can take creative license and do whatever they want with the ACTUAL story! The problem with this is that people don’t know what parts are actually true and so believe the possibility exists that ALL of it is true! That leads to instant fear when they suddenly have their own ghostly encounter. Even if they suspect the ghost is their loving gramma! The worry is that the haunting is going to graduate from gramma to an evil demon out to possess them! It’s too bad, really, because there is NOTHING more special than reconnecting with a loved one who has passed into spirit! It is one of the most PROFOUND experiences you can have in this physical life.

I often see a bluish light. I can see it with my eyes open but I see it more vividly when my eyes are closed. When I first started seeing it (early twenties), I wondered what it was but, for whatever reason, was too afraid to find out. It took me about ten years to finally get brave enough to allow the answer to come to me. Certainly I had asked mediums, shamans and anyone else who wanted to voice an opinion but I didn’t try to seek an answer myself. Until one night while I was mediating and trying to make contact with my spirit guide…who incidentally has the same name as my character’s spirit guide in the Tess Schafer-Medium series (Sheila!)…and I saw the blue light. I decided to stop being wary of it and sent out the message that I was ready to welcome it into my personal space. I didn’t force it to come closer (it always appeared to be just out of reach) and I didn’t try to mentally go after it. I simply waited. Suddenly the most overwhelming sense of LOVE just rushed over me, through me, around me – everywhere! It was my Nana. Gone to spirit for over twenty years, we had a LOT of catching up to do, and we did it all within minutes and without words. The spirit world is not limited to our mode of communicating through language. They communicate through feelings and it’s completely understandable, their message CLEAR! More so than words can ever convey. Honestly, once you label something with words then it must stay within the confines of those words and what you PERCEIVE them to mean. But when operating through FEELINGS, labels don’t have any role to play.

I now understand that the blue light is the energy field of a spirit! I was told once by an Indian shaman that spirits surrounded me. At the time the idea of it scared me to death! I was like “Do they watch me when I’m in the bathroom?”, do they watch me during other intimate moments that I don’t want to talk about in this blog? (smile) The idea of it did not sit well with me at all.

I’ve come to understand a lot about the spirit world over the years, through my contact with Sheila, other people, books, movies (not to mention some of the most profound dreams!) and I’m now understanding it that the spirit world doesn’t “see” us as we see with our physical eyes. They “see” us by our energy imprint and emotional body. So they don’t actually see our bodies while taking a shower (phew!). They sense our spirit, our energy field, much like we sense them when they are around.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “I just KNEW someone was near…that I wasn’t alone, I could feel them!” Of course we sense when spirits are around. At the very basic level, we are beings of energy. All energy affects any nearby energy and when you get close enough – zap! You really make contact! I’m no scientist and I don’t know much about how everything works, but I have a basic understanding on things that interest me (such as spirits, the spirit world and paranormal phenomena!) and I have my own thoughts and ideas concerning them (and where do you suppose ideas come from? Spirit!). My take on orbs for instance (small, light colored globes that often show up in photographs) is that they are the heart of a spiritual being – the center of their energy field. Camera’s send out this quick pulse of energy to capture a picture and the reaction that takes place when that energy pulse meets a spirit energy is the development of orbs in photos. It makes perfect sense to me in any case! So-called “experts” can argue the case against orbs all they want. I know for a fact that spirit beings (ghosts) do exist, and their energy is sometimes captured on film as orbs or other strange anomalies.

I think the whole Star Wars saga really captured my interest because I do believe that there is a “force” that exists and that we all can harness it and become like the Jedi Knights, if we only knew how! Honestly, Yoda knew exactly what he was talking about!  The Matrix was another movie to grab my attention because of its portrayal of the world being nothing more than an illusion. I think that movie has hit on the truth of the matter – our life is nothing more than a grand illusion! Unfortunately, that movie’s idea of “reality” totally sucked! How dreary their “real” world was! But when they plugged into the matrix, well, that offered endless possibilities! And it was THAT part of the movie that I loved most, for it’s sort of like how we are – spiritual beings “plugged” into the physical world! Given that, then everything we experience is completely under the control of our imagination! Unlike the movie, however, when we “unplug” from it (die) and our consciousness is refocused into the spirit world – well, it isn’t dreary at all, it is in fact quite an amazing, awesome, mind-boggling place!! So what the heck are we doing here anyway? Gotta be a reason why we “plugged” into this world and then proceeded to make mayhem! (sigh) You know, my belief is that we truly are suppose to figure out how to make heaven on earth. Instead, we seem to be masters at creating havoc and chaos! (another huge sigh).

So back to ghosts and all that. I think it should be a NORMAL part of our life to include the PARAnormal. Contacting our loved ones and continuing our relationship with them should be part of our life, no question! Oh, I imagine they have things to do “over there” but they aren’t limited by time and space as we are so it doesn’t hinder their spiritual process at all. They “hear” our call when we think about them and then here they are! But what do we often do? Continue to miss them. And yet, they are right THERE with us. Sometimes we even feel them but then consider it nothing more than our imagination and so dismiss it. Damned straight. It is our imagination, our world of imagery within our spiritual “mind”, where everything truly exists! For real.

So anyway, I tell people who write in and worry about their ghosts becoming evil and trying to possess them (like all the movies and horror books like to depict) is no, I’m pretty sure that’s not going to happen. One other thing I’ve learned over time is that WE CONTROL OUR OWN ENERGY FIELD! Have you ever seen the film or read the book The Celestine Prophecy? This movie explains the concept of personal energy fields (auras) quite well! Nothing and no one can overwhelm us and take control unless we do nothing to prevent it. Drugs, alcohol, mental and physical illness can weaken our defense certainly. BUT, that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to regain control! Exorcism is about good, positive energy forcing out the lower vibrational energy of negative spirits. The one thing that can block positive energy is NEGATIVE THOUGHTS and NEGATIVE BELIEFS! That’s it. Conquer that and the world…as they say…is your oyster.

To conclude. Ghosts exist and they are in fact EVERYWHERE. They don’t just hang out in old houses where someone died or spots where someone was murdered. We notice it more in those places because of the energy imprint left behind by those incidents. Energy, as you probably know, canNOT be destroyed. So, when our emotions flare up like happens during trauma, the energy bursts created during the incident are blasted out and become stored within the denser energy masses nearby…houses and other physical objects. Thus, when entering a house or touching an object that contains the stored energy of emotional trauma, we often can feel it. That’s because our spiritual body (which is a form of energy) is reacting to the energy stored within! This is why those places are easier for us to encounter paranormal phenomena. The energy there is high and our expectations of spirit activity draws the spirits to us! But the fact is spirits are all over the place. They truly are looking for someone to notice them just like Patrick Swayze’s character in the movie Ghost! In fact, since Halloween is fast approaching, the custom of donning costumes was started when people sought to disguise themselves from the spirits they knew were out enforce on Halloween night (the one night of the year when the veil between life and death is at it’s thinnest!). Like Hollywood likes to portray, some believed the spirits out roaming around on that night were out to possess their body so by making themselves look like anything but themselves, they hoped the spirits would pass them on by!

It was my own disappointment with what was available for ghost stories that I started writing them myself. Also, I wanted to share, through story telling, some of the wonderful things I’ve learned about spirit over the years! My beliefs are varied and touch on several religious schools of thought. I have to tell you though, in my honest opinion, there isn’t any ONE religion that has it ALL right. It’s like the truth of the matter is spread throughout every one of them! The reason EVERYONE doesn’t agree on EVERYTHING is because we are all at varying degrees of spiritual discovery and our knowledge is based on what we’ve learned SO FAR.

I really wanted to explore my beliefs in my book Be Still, My Love by having a medium go through tragedy. I wanted to show through storytelling that nothing is final and that there is always hope of finding happiness…no matter what! Then through Hidden Voices I wanted to explore a supernatural mystery that has plagued my hometown for centuries but also explore my character’s growing mediumship abilities. The third book Vanquishing Ghosts was written to show that no matter how bad the ghost, WE are in control not THEM, and vanquishing them CAN be done! The next book in the series “Rosemary’s Ghosts” (to be released in early October!) is more focused on the psychological aspects of hauntings and the conceptions many of us have about heaven and hell. I do, after all, have my own thoughts about that as well! All of these books share beliefs that I have come to accept and beliefs I am still exploring. I find myself learning things right along with my main character Tess! Honestly, all those books pretty much wrote themselves. I literally sat down at the keyboard and obediently started typing. I had no clear idea of how the story was going to pan out and end until it actually panned out and ended! And yet they all fit into each other so well. I love how it all works like that. It truly fascinates me. But then, I honestly believe that “spirit” is lending a hand!

Okay, I think I’ve rambled on enough for this post! Have you seen “The Conjuring”? What did you think of it? What do you think about any of the points I bring up? Really, there’s nothing more satisfying than people sharing ideas! It gets the “spirit” flowing! (smile)

By the way, there is one book I’ve read that depicts a “True Haunting” (it also is the title for the book!). It really is much more realistic about what a typical haunting is all about! It’s a quick easy read and if ghosts interest you, you’ll probably find this one rather interesting! Just don’t expect “over the top” craziness like the Hollywood movies go for.

Until next time…Peace Out and Blessings to all!!


Vanquishing Ghosts (Amazon)In honor of my FOURTH book publication, I thought I’d write a blog post that goes along with my newest book…Vanquishing Ghosts! I’m excited to share this one (as I am all my books) because I feel my characters are really coming into their own now. Having Tess and Kade (the Heroine and Hero) get past their emotional “garbage” and get on with it was a lot of fun to write (and somewhat embarrassing…I felt like such a VOYEUR at times…no wonder Kade was worried about that!) Aside from the romance element, I really wanted to address the issue of having ghosts…nasty ones, not so nice ones…and what to do about it. I wanted to show, through Tess’s problem with her own evil ghost that NOTHING can’t be handled. Nothing.

My blog post 12 Signs a Ghost is Near has been getting a LOT of hits lately. Seems the issue of ghosts plagues many of us! The world of the supernatural/paranormal is a vast unknown … a final frontier we all will one day traverse and yet few of us know anything about. I am just as curious as the next person on what life in the “beyond” is all about. I don’t blame people for searching for answers…I am doing the same thing!

I honestly believe that my stories are channeled from spirit. I don’t plan them and yet they all work out perfectly. Half the time, I’ve no idea what I’m going to say until I say it! I’m sure most writers will say the same. We just “plug” into “something” and a story emerges. Pretty cool.

So anyway…I’ve received a lot of messages asking about various incidents involving spirit interactions and I thought I’d address some common ones here!

If you encounter sudden smells that can’t be explained (nothing around to account for them) then you might be encountering someone from spirit! Often those in the spirit world can create a smell as a way of letting you know they are around. For instance, if someone you loved has died that loved to smoke, you might smell a cigarette or maybe they had a special perfume/cologne they wore…you might smell that. OR, they might have been known for their love of lilacs…you might smell that. One person wrote that she smelled burned candles…as if someone had just blown them out. Although she couldn’t associate candles with the person she thought it might be, I thought it quite appropriate that she smell that. It’s a well-known custom for people to light candles for those who are now in spirit…a way for those of us still in the physical world to send prayers of blessings to loved ones in the “beyond”. Reversing the process from the spirit world (creating the smell of a candle blown out) is a great way for them to let their living loved ones know that all is well. Many of us associate various smells/aromas with people so it’s a great spiritual interaction!

If you hear your name being called and yet no one is around to be calling your name…well then you might be encountering someone from spirit! Hearing your name from seemingly “nowhere” is quite common as well. Many, many of us can think of a time or two when we thought someone was calling us…and yet no one was doing so that we could SEE. This happens especially at night, just as you are falling asleep. Our busy mind is relaxing and the ever vigilant ego (our waking consciousness) is dozing off, laxing on the job, and allowing spirit to come through! Though the “sound” of our name SEEMS to be vocal…most often it is coming from “within” (inside our head!). Those in spirit connect to us through our thoughts quite often but many of us dismiss the interaction as their “imagination” getting out of hand. Here’s a secret…it’s not. Our imagination is the KEY to getting INTO the spirit world!!

If you hear knocking sounds then you might be encountering someone from spirit! I’m not sure WHY those in spirit can generate a knock but it seems that they can and they do it often! In fact, the Spiritualism movement was founded on this very thing! Look up the Fox Sisters and see what you get!! Be sure of this…if you hear someone knocking and yet no one is “there”…someone is there and looking to get your attention! Who comes to mind when you wonder who it might be? No doubt THAT is who is trying to get your attention!! Again, our thoughts and feelings are quite connected to the spiritual realm so if a sudden thought or a “feeling” comes to you on the issue…then you can pretty much go with it.

If you feel a sudden chill or sudden warmth then you might be encountering someone from spirit! Cold spots are common but many people experience the opposite affect…they feel a sudden warmth. I’m not sure why they generate cold or heat but it’s a common phenomena. Cold spots are more prevalent but I think that’s because the energy taking place is different. We are all beings of energy…and we return to pure energy when our physical form (a very LOW form of energy) falls away (dies…aka TRANSFORMS). Lowering our energy creates cold…speeding it up creates warmth! Many hauntings involve cold spots because spirits haunting a place are trying to lower their energy in order to interact within our realm of existence (the 3rd dimension of the physical world!).  Warm spots are generated when those in spirit are sending out love (a very HIGH form of energy!!). And no…I am not saying that cold spots are negative. Though they CAN be…mostly they are just a spirit’s way of slowing down their energy in order to interact with us.

If you feel someone tap your shoulder (or anywhere on your person for that matter) and yet no one is around…well, you are probably encountering someone from spirit! Now…this is only a way for them to get your attention. They aren’t trying to frighten you or hurt you. Unfortunately, getting “touched” by someone who isn’t “there” is pretty scary!! If it happens to you and you don’t like it…TELL them! They can hear you (your THOUGHTS are loud and clear to them…when you are DIRECTING your thoughts to them that is!). Those in spirit can’t randomly pop in your head and monitor your thoughts. But if you are thinking about them…even if it’s “was that a SPIRIT touching me?!”…then they’ll hear that because you are directing it to them!  And most of the time if you ask them to stop bothering you…they will.

If a picture or an item belonging to someone that has passed into spirit suddenly falls from it’s spot or keeps popping up…then you are probably encountering someone from spirit! Having a picture fall off the wall or suddenly show up somewhere unexpected is another common occurrence. This is definitely that person’s way of letting you know they are around!! And no…they aren’t doing it to freak you out…they are trying to reassure you they are alive and well!!

If you dream about someone who has passed into spirit then you are most probably encountering a spirit!! The spirit realm can easily meet with us in the dream state! Now…nightmares don’t count. Dreams that scare you are often fears you are harboring manifesting into your dreams…playing out your worries sort of speak. But if you dream about talking with someone who is now residing in spirit and it seemed so “real” then it was! I dream of my grandparents often. I even say to them “but you’re dead!” and they always reassure me that they most certainly are NOT dead!! (smile) I love those dreams.

If your pet or a young child (babies especially!) act like they are seeing something that you can’t see…then you are probably encountering someone from spirit! Babies still have their ‘spiritual eyes” (those that can see into the spirit realm) and animals are very sensitive to a spirit’s presence! If you see babies that seem to be watching something with their eyes that amuses them…then they are most likely getting entertained by angels or loved ones who have come from spirit to visit with them!

If your electrical equipment goes a little crazy…turns on or off or some such thing…then you may be encountering someone from spirit! Again, spiritual beings are pure energy and they can easily affect the energy around you! In fact, their higher rate of energy often is too much for weaker forms of energy…such as light bulbs…and thus a lot of light bulbs are blown when spirits are around.

If doors open or close, rocking chairs rock, toys suddenly activate, things start moving that shouldn’t be moving…well you are probably encountering someone from spirit. They use their energy to move lower forms of energy…physical objects. Now again, they are doing so not to frighten you but to let you know, however they can, that they are there! Alive, well, happy!!

If a sudden thought pops in your head…out of seemingly nowhere…then it might be spirit trying to contact you!

Now all these instances are just SOME of the ways in which those in spirit try to connect with us. Most of the time they are not doing it to frighten you. But really…how else are they supposed to get through? You’ve trained your minds to not see them (something we must do or it’s hard to function in our world) so they do what they must, what they can to get through. None of these things are hurtful. Scary yes. Hurtful? No.

Many people write to me telling me they’ve experienced one or more of these things and they wonder if they should be worried, concerned or scared. I say no to all the above! I understand that their worry is that the activity will worsen…become harmful, but here’s the thing…it MOST of the time does not! Very rarely do things escalate on a negative scale. So if it does…that’s when it’s time to be worried, concerned and scared. But most of these sorts of interactions as described in this post are done by benevolent spirits…the good guys!

Oh…here’s a good way to keep an eye out for messages from spirit: notice the signage that suddenly comes into your sphere of observation…be it a roadway sign, a license plate or whatever. For instance: I was thinking about my grampy Lafayette one day and missing him. I asked him to let me know he was around and SECONDS later this car comes speeding around me (I was just about to pull away from the take-out window at McDonald’s) and guess what was on his license plate? Yup…LAFAYETTE!! Coincidence? I think NOT. Answers to questions can often come to us in this way!! Be ever vigilant!!!

Negative entities do exist. They bring about very negative experiences…nauseating smells, dizziness (they draw in too much oxygen or mess up the chemical mix needed for our comfort), pain. I often tell people that a negative spirit is going to leave them in NO DOUBT as to the fact that they are negative. The fact you feel FEAR does not a bad experience make! We all feel that when encountering the unknown. So even if your very loving gramma suddenly wrapped her spirit arms around you and you felt her warmth, smelled her perfume and felt her tug on your hair like she always used to do…you are probably going to feel fear. So in this instance, even love can create fear. So thinking along the lines of “But I was SCARED! That must mean it was evil!” is NOT a good argument.

Now, if you have ghosts and you don’t want to have ghosts…here are some things you can try to get rid of them:

1. Go room to room and say a prayer of blessing…doesn’t have to be any special words, whatever comes to mind…keep it simple. God, the Universe, Allah…whatever your belief…they KNOW what your intention is so you don’t need to explain it to them!

2. Light a candle when saying your prayer (but NOT required…just a nice touch…more for YOU than for the ghosts!). The candle represents LIGHT…positive energy! After you’ve said your blessings, leave the candle for awhile or blow it out and give thanks for the divine assistance!

3. Light sage…any sort of dried sage will do! The smoke from the burning sage will eliminate negative energy! This is called “smudging”. The practice of smudging has been used for centuries! Just walk about the room and let the smoke permeate the air! Also…if a particular area or item is believed to be causing the problem…allow the smoke to wash over the item or area!

4. Light incense! Frankincense is a good one but really, most all incense promotes positive energy! Go to a metaphysical store and check out their properties (what they are known to help with!) and get the ones you need! You can also look up incense properties on line to figure out which ones to get.

5. Use your imagination (a GREAT source for spiritual interactions!!). Imagine a light filling the room…chasing away all shadows and washing over everything…penetrating every object in the room…to include the ceiling, the walls and the floor! This light is spiritual in nature and very positive! By imagining it infusing a room or object, you are cleansing it of negative energy and infusing it with positive forces!!

6. Place an item that means something to you spiritually in the room…a cross, angel figurines, pictures of angels, saints, Jesus, a Buddha statue! A pentagram (ensure one star is pointing UP!)…anything that you think of as representing God, the Universe, or whatever your belief.

7. If you feel like something is around and you don’t want it there…imagine a light surrounding you (protection). This light WILL keep you safe from negative spirits! Then tell the spirit to leave…BLESS the spirit and send it on its way. Cast out your imaginary light to encase the room around you! If it’s a good spirit (maybe someone who loves you and is hoping to make contact), the light won’t hurt them but they will get the message that you are not comfortable having them around and they will honor your request to leave!

Honestly, it’s that simple. I think we have this mind-set that everything has to be hard and complicated. But in truth…most things are quite simple. For whatever reason…we have a hard time accepting SIMPLE solutions. In fact, my character Kade has a major problem with it! He just doesn’t understand the power of spirit. But he’s getting it…with Tess’s help! (smile)

So hope this helps!! Most all this stuff is included in my book Vanquishing Ghosts by the way! I know…a shameless plug but hey, I’m quite proud of it!

Until next time…many blessings to all and Peace Out!


Spiritualist Church AngelI started this blog over a year ago because I wanted to share my paranormal experiences and connect with others of like mind. I have certainly done that! One thing I have learned quite quickly was that everyone…the world over…experiences the paranormal and are often left as I have been…curious, frightened and hoping for more answers. Many comments I get are from people who have experienced something that they don’t understand…they want answers and validation that they are not crazy. Oh how I know the feeling!

I often suggest that those needing a little more help than I can offer, should visit a Spiritualist Church. I learned about Spiritualist churches from a camper who came to stay at the campground I use to own and operate (a military retirement venture that was given up after three years of financial struggle and exhaustive work!). I knew about Temple Heights, of course, which is a Spiritualist Camp in Northport, Maine (not far from where I live) but I didn’t realize they were part of a church organization. Temple Heights is the place to go if you want to consult with a medium and I have visited them a few times … with great success. In fact, my mother was told during a “circle” we attended that she needed to take care of something going on in her stomach. At the time my mother wasn’t experiencing any problems there and so she didn’t think much of it. But when she later noticed a problem, she wanted it checked out right away because of what the medium told her. Turned out to be ovarian cancer, Stage 1, which is nearly unheard of to catch it that quick! Most of the time this fast-acting cancer is in its later stages by the time its discovered. A great success story that!

So anyway, I obviously missed all the literature about Temple Heights or I would have seen that it was part of the Spiritualist Church! So, I find out from this camper that there is a church (not a camp) in Augusta (Maine’s capitol city and quite close to where I live!). I went on line to check it out and yet it took me several months more before I finally decided to try one of their services. That was two years ago and I’ve been going ever since. In fact, I’ve become an official member! This church best suits my beliefs and I fit right in. Another feature I love about the church is their Thursday night “circles”. Now … about the circles. It is called that because we often sit in a circle when gathering together. At Temple Heights, circles are what they call sessions where a medium connects with spirit and passes on messages. They like to keep the circles small so everyone gets a message. The Thursday night circles at church cover different subjects every week. Church services as well as Thursday night circles always begin with prayer and meditation.

I often recommend that people needing help with spiritual matters should try to attend one of these church services because so many mediums attend them and often the kind of help they need is the kind of help a medium can give. The pastors for these churches are also mediums. They must all go through a certification process to prove their ability. Basically, whenever one of their mediums makes recognizable contact with a spirit, the person for whom they are reading is encouraged to fill out a testimonial saying so and that is sent to church officials who decide if it meets their strict guidelines for “proof” of spirit contact. I know this much…every medium that has given me a message has been right on, especially the pastor of the Augusta church!

The first time I attended, I wasn’t sure what to expect (by the way, the picture on the top left is from the old church building that was recently destroyed. It was on display right above the alter area and I loved looking at it during services). I thought I might feel a little out of place and awkward. But no. I did not. I was warmly welcomed at the door and then when we went through a guided meditation for the “healing portion” of the three-part service, I immediately relaxed into the calming atmosphere. The church believes that the power of healing comes from spirit (God, Infinite Intelligence!) and they offer the opportunity for healers (those who are particularly attuned to spirit and offering themselves as a conduit between spirit and the person needing healing) to pray over you. Church healers go through the same certification process as the mediums! I tell you, the benefits of this healing portion of the service can be felt right from your seat … without the added benefit of sitting in the healing chairs! The energy is that high in their services. The next part of the service involves a “message”. They prefer to call it that rather than a “sermon” for they don’t “preach” to you … they impart messages they feel moved to share. Those sharing the message of the day are also the mediums who will be conducting messages from spirit during the last portion of the service. Visiting mediums from other churches often come to share their talents and so we get to meet many wonderful people from all over!

The first time I attended church I received a message from my uncle who passed to spirit when I was fourteen. I loved him dearly and was very close to him and his passing was very hard for me. He was only 29 years young. The pastor was the one passing on the message and he got everything right. He described my uncle perfectly. He knew how and when he died, he knew that he smoked a pipe and was left handed. I was floored by this. Although I had been to many mediums before this point, none of them were as accurate or brought through someone from the other side that I quickly, easily and without mistake recognized! I KNEW my uncle was in that church with me and it was quite an emotional experience. The next visit my grandmother came through. He knew so much about her that was specific to only my nana that I knew once again that he truly was in contact with her. I have received many wonderful messages from loved ones during church services and I am so very grateful for it.

Spiritualist believe not only that life goes on after death but that we should be in contact with those in spirit as well. Thus, all the mediums to be found at their services! They believe in Jesus as well so in that respect, they are also Christian. But their doctrine is quite different from most Christian churches … mainly their focus on keeping communications open between our world and the spirit world. They don’t pass judgment on things like the Tarot cards, palm reading and the like. They welcome everyone and don’t consider gays to be a sinful lot. They accept without question those who are in same-sex marriages. They just don’t pass judgment on those things. Now, I know some of these things are very controversial but it is all a matter of faith and belief and this is a very accepting church! Their number one, golden rule? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Spiritualists are a unique group of people and I enjoy their company and their acceptance of everyone. They do not in any way condemn other churches. All are welcome to attend their services and there is no attempts to change their faith or their beliefs. There is no … believe-this-or-else kind of policy.

Several years ago I had a beloved great-uncle Norman who lost his wife, my dear aunt Tine, after 65 years of marriage! Imagine that … sixty five years! They had known each other most all their entire lives. They didn’t have any children so they went through life only with each other. When Tine died, my uncle Norman was devastated and he wanted to follow her into the afterlife. But one day some church folks knocked on his door and they saw he was quite aged, living alone and in grief. They wouldn’t leave him alone and visited him regularly. At first he enjoyed their sympathy and their company. BUT (there is always a “but” isn’t there?), they convinced him that he needed to be baptized or he was going to go to hell. That scared him for aunt Tine wasn’t baptized either and he became very worried for her soul. Especially so when they told him that since she didn’t attend church either, she really needed his prayers! Now, my aunt Tine was one of the sweetest ladies ever. She was kind to everyone and she was very loved. No freaking way would God send someone like her straight on to hell because she didn’t get baptized or go to church. But my uncle Norm was frightened by these people who told him otherwise. He wrote to me his fear of dying and his fear that his wife might be in hell. Since he was too sick to attend his scheduled baptism at church, he told me he was scared because he didn’t want to die and go to hell. Also, he wasn’t sure he had prayed enough to save his beloved Tine from that horrible fate as well. I wrote to him and I told him that so many people loved him, everyone that knew him in fact, and that he was the BEST of men. He lived a good life and God loved him way more than I did or anyone else for that matter. I told him that God loved aunt Tine more than he loved her. Would he send her to hell? NO! Well, God was much more loving and forgiving than him so why would he do something like that? “Go in peace, Uncle Norm. Go be with Tine and know that you will be happy and loved and in a beautiful place together.” I told him he had nothing at all to fear and he died the day after receiving my letter. I do not doubt for a second …in fact, I KNOW my uncle Norm and aunt Tine are together in glory with God. A Spiritualist Church would never have done that to a person. Never.

We are a race of judges. It is part of our nature to judge all things and these judgments are driven by our Egos. Most everyone passes judgments on everyone else and tries to use their bible of choice as their authority to do so. Well, I don’t buy into it. I use my own moral compass (my conscience, my soul) to determine what I think is right or wrong. I understand that others are not going to agree with me on every issue and so be it. That’s fine. We must all live our own life as we see fit. Every one of us have the right to our beliefs. One of my beliefs is that others’ beliefs should bring NO harm to anyone. All of life should be respected and treated justly. That’s not to say that evil doers should be left alone to do as they believe and conduct their evil. But that’s another whole discussion we won’t get into!

Now, I will be vocal as anyone else on passing judgments concering sins that we ALL can usually agree on … murder and stealing for example. But even in that we have disputes. Is capitol punishment murder? Is abortion murder? Is military operations that result in deaths murder? See? It’s all a matter of belief. Nothing is cut and dried. Not for me. It is for many others, though, and there’s nothing I can do about that. I am responsible for my SELF … for me. You are responsible for you. You make your choices and I make mine and if we must stand before some sort of spiritual judge someday … well, then I guess we’ll learn who was right and who was wrong then won’t we? Until that possible day, so long as I am not hindering your life in any way and causing you harm, I see no problem with me carrying on as I do.

But, back to the Spiritualist Church. They have camps … such as the one I mentioned earlier, Temple Heights, all over the country. You can locate them from the Spiritualist Church website. But one of their most famous camps here in the States is Lily Dale. It is truly a unique community. My husband and I were fortunate to stay there for a couple days a few years back and we totally enjoyed it. Many mediums make their homes there and several circles are offered throughout the day. They also hold classes covering a variety of spiritual subjects and they have many guests come in to share their unique gifts as well. The whole place has an air of peace and well being. I hope to make it back again someday. We even looked longingly at some of the homes within the community that were up for sale. What a great place to live, we thought. Who knows … maybe someday …

Anyone and everyone is welcome to visit and stay at the Spiritualist Camps. They have very reasonable rates and if you are looking for an interesting experience, you should check them out!

My advice to readers of this blog who write asking for help with paranormal issues is often a suggestion that they visit a Spiritualist Church to find a medium or people experienced in such matters. If you ever read my replies to comments asking for help with ghosts, that’s what I often tell them. It’s good advice. I take it myself.

One thing I love about this blog is all the sharing done here. So many people experience the paranormal and it can be quite frightening. Well, I hope here they can discover that it isn’t all negative and bad and evil. No. The spirit world is as much God’s world as is the physical world! We are all beings of SPIRIT, possessors of the eternal soul. May peace be with you!!!

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